Loving Yourself ~ Let's Stick with the Experts on Therapy ~ Bessel Van Der Kolk Harvard Psychiatrist and MD states that Talk Therapy is a WASTE of time and only Body Therapy works today.
I have been talking about Body Therapy for over a year and a half.
Hey girls, I haven't been blowing smoke all of this time.
And I believe that some of you have thought I was nuts, but here comes a HEAVY HITTER.
This guy is a member of the whos who in psychiatry. He's helping our boys that have come back from our wars, and even common folk like you and me.
I have stuck with my discussion on BODY THERAPY from the very beginning because I believe it works while talk therapy doesn't and now Bessel is coming to my defense.
Yes maybe talk therapy works for people who live under a pitre dish and under ideal conditions, but it falls a part with Trauma and PTSD and other serious conditions. He suggests the most Americans have some sort of Trauma, that needs attention.
Bessel suggests that Trauma originates in the BODY and releasing the angst and trauma inside the body, is the only way to heal he believes will alieviate most of today's patient problems.
He suggests that our lifestyles have also promoted a lot of our trauma, something not as big an issue with those living in 3rd World Countries. No wonder people from these countries appear so much happier than we, they are a lot happier than we are even with our American Dream and all our stuff.
Let's face it, Hollywood, the medias and advertising has done a number on most of us which is why I believe and Bessel believes too that we Americans are not connected to our bodies. So Bessel suggests that the ugly stick of trauma affects most of us Westerners and not just a few.
So I have decided to add Bessel's discussion on Yoga and how it helps reduce patient trauma, but surprisingly, another method of releasing trauma is through dance. Something I have been suggesting all along through MOTION and MOVEMENT Therapy. So learn and Enjoy! Dr. Steve McQueen
Y o g a a n d P o s t - T r a u m a t i c S t r e s s D i s o r d e r
An Interview with Bessel van der Kolk, MD Dr. Bessel van der Kolk is considered one of the world’s leading authorities on Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
He has pioneered the use of Yoga as a therapy that is helping these individuals to work through their PTSD and regain a sense of mastery. He discusses mind-body connections in trauma, how Yoga works and precautions for teaching trauma-sensitive Yoga students.
Integral Yoga Magazine (IYM): How did you get interested in Yoga for the treatment of PTSD?
Bessel van der Kolk (BvdK): I began my own practice six years ago. I was looking for a way for people to regulate the core arousal system in the brain and feel safe inside their bodies. My interest came from doing research that discovered how trauma affects the brain. Yoga turned out to be a way to get people to safely feel their physical sensations and to develop a quiet practice of stillness. Lots of Yoga sites claimed that Yoga could change basic brain functions, but that was based on intuition, not scientific investigation. So I decided to see if Yoga can positively affect the core regulatory mechanism in the brain. Some trauma-sensitive people can feel frightfully unsafe experiencing the sensations that are evoked by certain asanas. What most people do not realize is that trauma is not the story of something awful that happened in the past, but the residue of imprints left behind in people’s sensory and hormonal systems. Traumatized people often are terrified of the sensations in their own bodies. Most trauma-sensitive people need some form of body oriented psychotherapy or bodywork to regain a sense of safety in their bodies.
IYM: How does extreme stress affect brain function?
BvdK: Neuroimaging studies of human beings in highly emotional states reveal that intense emotions, such as anger, fear or sadness, cause increased activity in brain regions related to fear and self-preservation and reduced activity in the brain regions related to feeling fully present. People with PTSD lose their way in the world. Their bodies continue to live in an internal environment of the trauma. We all are biologically and neurologically programmed to deal with emergencies, but time stops in people who suffer from PTSD. That makes it hard to take pleasure in the present because the body keeps replaying the past. If you practice Yoga and can develop a body that is strong and feels comfortable, this can contribute substantially to help you to come into the here and now rather than staying stuck in the past.
IYM: What is the main challenge for the trauma sensitive?
BvdK: The challenge is to learn how to tolerate feelings and sensations by increasing the capacity for interoception or sitting with yourself, noticing what’s going on inside— the basic principle of meditation. They need to learn how to modulate arousal. Trauma-sensitive people have their sense of time thrown off and think something will last forever. Their challenge is to learn how to notice what is happening and how things can and will shift, rather than running away or turning to alcohol or drugs to self-medicate.
IYM: You have said that those with chronically overwhelming emotions lose their capacity to use emotions as guides for effective action.
BvdK: The function of emotion is e-motion, to engage in action. If you are afraid, you want to move away from the object of fear. If you become angry, you feel as if you want to engage or get physical with whomever is making you angry. If you love someone, you want to make some movement toward that person. That is the purpose of emotion—to propel us toward action. When you are traumatized your motion is paralyzed. A victim of violence almost invariably has been trapped, pinned down or unable to move. Later, if there is a perceived threat, the body reacts as if it has to move but it once again feels helpless and paralyzed, prevented from being able to act effectively. All the chemicals are released to engage in action but the body doesn’t know how to move. Their challenge is that after confrontation with physical helplessness, it is essential to engage in taking effective action.
IYM: What about self-care challenges?
BvdK: The rational brain is the crowning glory of human beings. It is there to help us to engage in the world, but it is not very good in helping us take care of ourselves. In other words, the rational mind, while able to organize feelings and impulses, is not well equipped to abolish emotions, thoughts and impulses. People with PTSD, usually are out of touch with their physical sensations, and, as a consequence, they have trouble taking care of themselves. On the other end of the brain, the reptilian part is not good in quieting and taking care of the mind. However, when that system is harnessed the mind gets clearer, it’s easier to regain perspective on one’s life. It is surprising that, in contrast to Asian and African cultures, western traditions hardly pay any attention to the cultivation of techniques to quiet ourselves—we have been urged to “better living through chemistry.”
IYM: Have Western psychotherapies failed to address this?
BvdK: Western psychotherapy has hardly paid any attention to the experience and interpretation of disturbed physical sensations and action patterns. Yoga is one of the Asian traditions that clearly help reintegrate body and mind. For someone to heal from PTSD, one must learn how to control bodily reflexes. PTSD causes memory to be stored at a sensory level—in the body. Yoga offers a way to reprogram automatic physical responses. Mindfulness, learning to become a careful observer of the ebb and flow of internal experience, and noticing whatever thoughts, feelings, body sensations and impulses emerge are important components in healing PTSD.
IYM: How does Yoga do that?
BvdK: Yoga helps regulate emotional and physiological states. It allows the body to regain its natural movement and teaches the use of breath for self-regulation. What is beautiful about Yoga is that it teaches us—and this is a critical point for those who feel trapped in their memory sensations—that things come to an end. While doing certain asanas, uncomfortable sensations may be evoked. But, by keeping time as they stay in a posture for a limited amount of time, they get to observe that discomfort can be tolerated until they shift into a different posture. The process of being in a safe space and staying with whatever sensations emerge and seeing how they come to an end is a positive imprinting process. Yoga helps them befriend their bodies that have betrayed them by failing to guarantee safety. Another important aspect of Yoga is utilizing the breath. It’s very striking that there’s nothing in western culture that teaches us that we can learn to master our own physiology— solutions always come from outside, starting with relationships, and if those fail, alcohol or drugs. Yoga teaches us that there are things we can do to change our brainstem arousal system, our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and to quiet the brain.
IYM: Is meditation okay for those with PTSD?
BvdK: The Dalai Lama and Yoga masters like Swami Satchidananda have made meditation almost mainstream. The neurobiology of meditation—that the brain can grow new cells and reshape itself—is becoming better known and finding its way into mental health services. If we meditate regularly, this can modulate the fear center and help us be more focused. However, if you are traumatized, being in silence is often terrifying. Memory of trauma is stored, so when you are stilled, demons come out. Those with PTSD should first learn to regulate their physiology with breath, postures and relaxation and work toward meditation.
IYM: Do you have any advice for Yoga teachers who work with trauma-sensitive students?
BvdK: When we practice Yoga, we open ourselves up and psychological imprints are activated. Yoga teachers need to be aware that material will come up during class and they need to be prepared at all times to help people to calm down their bodies, by working work with the breath and quieting poses. Teachers should create a safe space in the class, keep the focus on the breath and the flow of the asanas. It is best to refrain from excessive talking, explaining or preaching during the class—the job of the Yoga teacher is to help people to feel safe in every aspect of their self-experience. We have a trauma-sensitive Yoga program and a nationwide trauma Yoga teacher training course. Dave Emerson helps teachers understand how people get triggered and how to teach them to focus on self-regulation. We tell Yoga teachers to make no physical adjustments without carefully checking first with people. Some poses like Balasana (child’s pose) can be very sensitive. We don’t avoid these, but it’s important that trauma-sensitive students are taught by teachers who are skilled in facilitating self-regulation techniques and who can help people use pranayama and movement to stay relaxed and in the present moment.
Bessel A. van der Kolk MD from Harvard, has been a clinician, researcher and teacher in the area of posttraumatic stress since the 1970s. He has done pioneering work on the neuroscience of trauma, its impact on development, thinking, feeling and body sensations.
Loving Yourself ~ What is Ignatian Spirituality and both he and I believe you can't really have a Loving Self-Care Program, minus your 5 Sense Awarness. And in this life, "I Hope YOU Dance"
I want to be honest here when discussing Self-Care and Sensuality.
We hear a lot of discussion about creating Self-Care without Sensuality because it seems to bring out the idea of human sexuality which causes that our true human Sensual natures to suffer.
The problem is that Sensuality to Iranecus who was a saint by the way in his time, who suggested that human Self-Care, had to include Sensuality or awareness of one's 5 senses, or it wasn't Self-Care.
The reason why I believe most of us are not Sensual and live more fully from our 5 senses is because our vision combined with thought, tends to dominate all of our other 4 senses such as taste, touch, smell, and hearing.
For that reason, I believe that even animals are more aware of there 5 senses that we humans are. It's as if our huge brains, get in the way of our true self-care program. And we need Self-Care drastically to live as a full joyful existance as a human being. Anything short of that, to me is not true living.
Self-Care alone is like having the left hemisphere of the brain in action only. However, both the right and left hemisphers of the brain need to marry where Self-Care becomes the left side through practice and Sensuality or your Aliveness right side, need to be together, for human joy and happiness to exist. So that is why living from your 5 senses is so important.
Too often we look at Sensuality as if it is Sexuality, and we don't recognize there is a difference. In fact, Ignatian a 2nd Century Christian Leader and also mystic believed that you cannot experience God if a person, is not living within her 5 senses. It was to him that living a Sensual 5 senses life became a prayer itself. In fact, you can be sensual and be cellbate, Something that can baffle most Americans.
Somehow, with the rise of Puritanism and the Industrial Revolution against a Roman, sexuality backdrop, we have somehow, lost our senses,
We all have bodies so somehow, we have been given our bodies as Irenacus suggests with all 5 their senses to use and not leave stagnant, so we need to embrace them to become ALIVE and well.
What is Ignatian Spirituality
"The second-century saint Irenaeus said that “the glory of God is man [and woman] fully alive.” I love this idea and find that it always invites reflection. What does it mean to be fully alive? How well am I doing with that?
One thing I’ve learned is that a big part of being “fully alive” is paying attention. It’s being aware of God’s presence in the present moment, right where I already am. And I’ve found that a good way to cultivate this mindfulness is to pay attention to the five senses.
God speaks to us through what we see, hear, smell, touch, and taste. We know this intuitively, but to think about it consciously is a powerful form of prayer……
God meets us where we are, as humans living and breathing and moving in a tangible world, and the five senses are five entry points for God’s love to become known to us."
I found a neat website that I am adding here that sums up my total intension on become Sensual Beings, and it is also contained in the Country Song by Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance" which I believe that our sensuality becomes life's dance. And if we don't dance, we are not truly human.
Solitude, Sensuality and Self-Care
“There was my time to indulge the part of me that wanted to be seen and appreciated as a woman. I’d go about my beauty routines lavishly applying lotions and enjoying the softness of my skin, making eyes at myself. I’d have pretend conversations, smiling and flirting with some imaginary person, driving them crazy with my charm and mystery. Inevitably, at some point I’d turn on music and the private dancing would begin. Behind my closed bedroom door, I was a goddess, completely immersed in my own feminine energy.
While I would have been embarrassed to talk about these antics at the time, I realize now that this kind of indulgence is sacred and it’s incredibly self-soothing. Over time, I got away from myself and started relying on men for everything. To make me feel sexy, happy, interesting, appreciated, whole. There were times I literally begged men to make me feel important, to fix me when I felt broken and rescue me. I forgot how to appreciate my own attention and it took me a long time to return to myself.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the imagination of self-love and how healthy it is to be entertained by yourself. We need to explore all our layers and inspire ourselves and make stuff and dream. When we crave attention, we need to know how to feed that desire with our own details and the sustenance of our own care. So we don’t rely on others to give us what we should first give ourselves.
There is an undeniable connection between imagination and purpose. Whatever it is you find yourself visualizing and needing to express, there is a reason. However many women live inside of you, your imagination can reveal them. Don’t be inhibited with yourself.
I purposely remind myself daily that I am a sensual being, fully capable of pleasing myself. I take time to notice how I touch things and how I move. How I take care of myself and what makes me feel stimulated and alive. How I surround myself with inspiration. No matter what I’m doing, I enjoy my own company. I’m not waiting for someone to see me or fill me, I know how to do it on my own.
When we don’t give ourselves this attention, we can find ourselves doing unhealthy things to get some light from someone else. And oh my God, the things we do, the things we put ourselves through, rather than cultivating what we need to feed ourselves. Start there, in your own space, with an admitted desire for love and attention. Don’t be ashamed of it. Use your imagination to channel your magic and inhabit yourself fully.”
"I Hope You Dance" by Lee Ann Womack
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty-handed
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
I added the video of the song for you to listen to below.
The Woman's Secret ~ How to Re-Connect to your Body through Motion Therapy ~ which once you get the hang of it, can offer you a more productive and a Happier Life ~ are you interested?
Motion Therapy is a simple concept to explain, but it is not easy to do.
My premise is you doing something as simple as a daily walk in the park, can change your life and it is that simple.
But doing it in nature daily is where it is not so easy and becomes a little sticky.
First of all you need to get on a good pair of walking shoes and go for a walk as often in nature as possible, which is something that is simple but not easy to do.
The reason it is hard is because you already think you know the right way to walk and also the right way to breath because you have been doing these same two practices now for the last X years of your life.
And here is the arm chair shrink telling you right now that everything you learned when you were a teenager was not right. And that he is about to offer you a simple way to totally change your life, and forever.
Many of us will go visit a shrink and pay him a fortune to teach you how to think right, but once you learn this simple method, I believe that your whole life will change, and if yo u are seeing a therapist, you won't have to see him much longer. However, to make it yours, you just have to have the will power to follow it through.
Others will learn how to walk to entice a man using the ideas of a ballroom dancer below, who teaches women, what I have instructed here for FREE. I added links of her program for you to review below where woman pay her to teach them how to walk properly, what I am showing you here. Keep your money in your purse, and use my simple walk in nature program, as my FREE, do it yourself program.
It is because I believe once you learn how to apply motion therapy, most of your mental issues I believe will disappear, and within a few days, weeks or months of constant practice, you will become a whole more productive and happier person. Believe me that is what I have discovered and I am here to share my process with you. Now you know why I said, this method is simply, but not easy to do, because to unlearn and relearn, takes daily practice.
Why did girls learn how to walk with a book on their heads in the old days you might say, which offers you the same effects as walking in nature, In fact, you will experience this same effect as I do applying this same book on your head practice. Here are reasons why even this simple approach works.
The old practice of Walking with a Book or Several Books on your head something we rarely do today
To achieve the best walking techniques you can also:
You mean all it takes is learning how to rewalk and rebreath and your life will change! That is why this is idea so simple, the hard part is consistantly doing it.
But what I have to tell you today, is what you need is someone acting both like a physical therapist, and teach you a better way to walk and a messsage therapist and illustrating to you a better way to breath.
But may I add, that if you will take these two change changes to heart, I promise you that as you take your relearning how to walk and breath simple changes, that I know you can learn to gain a more productive and happier life. I know this because I live this way and have so for most of my life.
I like to talk about the transition of you as a child and now you as an adult. I like to use this analogy because once you became an adult two radical changes took place, the first is that your walking became more machine like, and your breathing became more faint. These are to changes you made which today, makes you less productive and happier than you were during your childhood days.
What you need to change is simple to do, but making that change and making it a habit, is not easy. Believe me, I have talked to many people and many of them take my advice for a few days, and after a little encouragenemt from me, go right back to their old, comfortable ways.
Here are the advantages you will gain once you make these two changes:
1. SelfAcceptance as you relearn how to begin walking and breathing right.
2. Greater Confidence in your stride Many people don't walk confidently because they are moving their bodies wrong.
3. You will gain more charisma, because walking more confidently will improve your social life.
4. You will improve your life balance because walking and breathing deeper will reduce many of your rnegative thought patterns.
5. Your mood will change into a happier and more self-loving person as more serotonin, daily enters your body.
What you are learning to do:
If you have heard about Neuroplasticity, you know that Neuroscience is discovering that how you think, makes a huge difference in how happy you really are. One problem tha tmost of us face, is that we think Tops/down or that we live within the top part of our minds. This part is very competitive and very critical, which I believe creates much of our unhappiness in life.
So just by you changing both your walk and your breathing deeply, will through Neuroplasticity, retrain you into Bottom/up thinking by relearning how to think like you did as a child.
What happens is that the neurons in your brain when you begin to walk and breath this new way will begin at the center of your brain called the hypothalamus and pituitary gland which is a more loving mind, and when you need information you will go up into your minds higher region. But you don't stay in that higher mind region. I also told you that the natural drug of seratonin, is more active in that region often called the LOVE CENTER, of your brain.
When walking this way you are satisfying a more PRIMATIVE part of your brain that is why I often refer to it as PLEASANT WALKING, which is how our ancestors used to walk, and walking this way they were a lot happier people than we are today. When I walk this way serotonin kicks in and my days feel less rushed and a lot happier too. No need taking drugs, when what is available to you each day is this natural high.
But basically, learning how to walk this way will help you think more postive and it will allow you to spend more of your day within that peaceful center region o your brain. In fact, this is the same region that a ferocious mother lion, nurses and loves her baby cub, from this mind center region. That is why walking properly to me is an important mind shift, and is powerful stuff.
So now that I told you how wonderful life for you will become lets let you know what two changes you will have to make.
1. Most of us walk on even ground and we drive as close to the store entrance as we can so we don't have to walk as far. So in walking you walk placing one foot in front of the other. However, whenever you walk or hike in nature you have to change your walking style to accommodatue the rocks and uneven ground. When walking when the grouind is uneven and there are rocks in the path, you have to walk from side to side to gain better balance. What you will also notice is that when you are walking to keep your balance your hips will begin to sway a bit more when walking more side to side.
I found the more I walk in nature the more I gain this same rhythmic way at home. In fact, it looks more like a dance than a walk. Little do people know that you get more of the natural high serotonin, walking this side to side way. That is why the ancients were happier first of all they walked this way and second, they walked more than we do today. They rarely sit which we do too much of in our modern times.
2. Most of us breath from our lungs and don't breath all the way down to our diaphram. As children we breathed all the way down, but once we became adults we got lazy and started to breath shallow. Making this change alone, will create for you a more meditative life.
I added these two links below, one of a video and the other is a website of a ball room dancer teaching women how to walk right and how tp become a more confident person, I added this for you to see that some people are willing to pay money teaching women, how walk properly where you are getting my same information for FREE.
Woman's Secret ~ Getting to Why ~ an Answer to Simon Sinek ~ towards finding our Own Stories; I believe it is HOW every Human Being finds his or her WHY. It must begin with Your HOW.
I am a follower of Simon Sinek. But in a much different way than most of you.
Simon talks a lot about coporations and movements and why and how they succeed.
However, when it comes to true success which each of us is trying to find, it is about internalizing our own WHY's.
We meed to move out of our External worlds, and into a more internal based reason to live and be human. As human being we all need to have a Why to live and breath and care and love one another. We need to wake up to a WHY every day to go about our jobs and careers and raise wonderful families.
Somehow it is the WHY that gets pushed aside in our lives as we try as Simon suggests to get by with the Whats and the Hows of life.
I was watching Bear Gillis in his Running Wild program with Venessa Hudgens last night on air. In fact, their treck was in the Sierra's and the wilderness and that treck he was on, is much like my own and is much like my very own experience, when I do my own daily desert walks.
The success of Gillis' Running Wild series with both celebrites and viewers is that we as humans have this desparate need of dicovering a WHY. We are all human beings everyone of us and I believe nature brings out our WHY more than any other activity we can do. We human's are all Paleo's at heart.
Our WHY is much more basic as human beings than we could ever imagined and it that need is not as complex as we think. It is you BODY as to why you are here, and many of us must rediscover our own bodies, to find our WHYS. That is why nature is a way, to rediscover our STORIES and who we are.
Hudgens and all those celebrities as they participate in "Run Wild" and visit many of these outbacks all over the world, with Gillis are experiencing their ROOTs or there FIRST CHAKRAs, which is a connection with their own bodies or the very source of their life, while each of them are roughing it out in a natural setting.
We all came from the same Palio root stock every human being alive. So whenever we experience our body roots in nature or even watching "Running Wild", it is this SIMPLE BODY experiencing or even a connection with our BODY selves as a viewer, that gives us all JOY. That is why I believe "Running Wild" is so successful. It points to who we are as BODY explorers on a wonderful EARTH. Just hearing the word EARTh, makes me feel happy and warm.
I believe as human beings having a SIMPLE STORY of the HOW to Simek's WHY, gives us human beings a newness of life, even if it is only for a few moments each day.
That is why I believe that Simon Sinek's idea of getting to the WHY must begin with a HOW, and the HOW is all about our SIMPLE stories, and it is about rediscovering of our simple stories and many of us, realizing that we are BODY EXPLORES in this life, while living within it daily, each day.
That is why I journalize when I am on my walks so I can write and rewrite my own human story, just like the early human beings did who put up their pictures on rock, and to express their very essences in picture form, of the stories and the meaings of their lives.
They would also gather around the campfire after a successful hunt, would tell their own personal stories and listen to the stories of their family and friends.
It was their personal stories that was their whys and why they enjoyed their human experiences while being a body on EARTH, that gave them reason to live fully within the cycle of life, from birth, and eventuall to death.
I have a lot of complex things I do with my own work each day. However, it is my Simple story that gets me up each day which is my WHY. And I believe that you and I need to internalize our own stories which may even be a ritual as simple as a daily walk in the park, bicycling to work, or even doing 30 minutes of meditation or yoga a day, revisiting your own body selves each and every day.
Your ROOT Chakra lives DEEPLY inside your body andlike Simek says it is more about BIOLOGY than we could ever imagine. Simek says our WHY's are something larger than rational thought.
He would even be willing to say as I am saying the HOW is it is within the very CORE of your BODY existance and who you are here on Earth. You came here as a BODY and experiencing your BODY SELF fully is the WHY you came to EARTH.
And remembering and experiencing your body CORE existance here each day, creates a newness in life not only to you, but it manifests itself your family, your friends. And being an authentic human being while you live on the wonderful planet called EARTH, breathing your own STORy, is your GIFT you offer to our world.
See Vanessa Hudgens on "Running Wild" with Gillis
Loving Yourself ~ What part does Neuroscience play in Your Discovering Heaven on Earth and How Paleo's can Point the Way
The might seem as if there is method to my madness in explaining the Paleo way of life. Some of you who are less intellectual may feel this is of interest and others who are more intellectual may sense it as a waste to your time. But hold on with any of your judgement at least for a few minutes more.
Furthermore, this discussion today is all about what role Neuroscience plays in explaining the true Paleo lifestyle and how it could help you expience true Heaven on Earth. That idea alone, should keep you reading.
I believe once I put my argument in that direction of How to Experience Heaven on Earth in you body self, Ithen am sure that many of you who think learning about Paleoism might not be a waste of your time and I assure you once you get to the end of this article you will understand why, it won't be.
To get an inkling on Neurscience and brain mapping we have to examine the brain activity of how a modern adult thinks in relationship to how a Paleo adult which I believe their Neuro maps are completely different. Let's use the brain I added above to explain my personal findings.
Us modern man through language and education and after the Industrial revolution evolved from the lower part of the brain and into its upper regions. So our mapping is simply a case of thinking tops (0r living from your upper region and then at times when difficulties arise moving down. Or moving down into the fight and flight region.
"So why is it, that our brains have a such a negativity bias? The reason is quite simple: They’re actually wired to pay more attention to negative experiences. It’s a self-protective characteristic. We are scanning for threats from when we used to be hunter and gatherers. But such vigilance for negative information can cause a narrowing, downward spiral and a negative feedback loop that doesn’t reflect reality."
I was reading an article from a Paleo health advocate and if we look at this article too, who was explaining the power of his Paleo diet on both his body constitution and his health and he made an interesting statement that told me that outside of diet, he didn't know one iotta of the consistancy of a Paleo's life.
Apparently the story goes that he was in the military in afghanastan and his version of a Paleo's life was as his own in war. Or just as this article relates that the Hunter-Gather was always in search of threats. I disagree with both of these ideas on how Paleo's lived.
In fact this past soldier said in examinng what a Paleo lifestyle might be like is that they lived life between boredom and panic. As soon as I heard that statement I realized that he knew nothing about how a Paleo man or woman lived. For I believe that according to Neuroscience, a Paleo lives in another part of his or her brain than in constant bordom to panic.
I believe that when you were a child you lived more as how a Paleo lived, which is more of a Bottoms up approach. One easy way to see how this works, is watch your pooch. Most dogs are naturally happy and occassionally when a stranger comes to the door is when the dogs fight or flight mechanism is restored.
Where a child, or a dog or even a Paleo living a less complex life and more from one's reptilian lower portion of your brain which is often called your brain stem and occasionally moving up to gain some needed rational thought. Rational thinking to a Paleo was like a tool that you use now and again, but he lived unlike the modern man, who lives continually within his critical mind.
Take a child for example. They are living within pleassure and occassionally when difficulties arise they experience pain. If you think about it that too is how Paleos lived. They lived from pleasure and occassionally when met by the tiger experienced pain or the fight or flight mechanism which would kick in.
What happened to man over time is that once we learned language and we gained a more complex life, we found ourselves moving from the lower regions up to the top of the brain as we left our child like life behind. The difference was that because the Paleo life was much simpler, they never migrated up to the top. So most of them remained in what I would infer as a child, in a more pleasurable part of their brain, which was and extension of their bodies.
So Ibelieve after doing my walks for years, and through Neuro plasticity which means, remapping my brain to one that is more similar to that of how a Paleo thinks is where I have been able to network my own mind, through many months to even years of long nature walks,
So how can we become more positive this articles suggests.
"Indeed, it’s quite simple: We can harness the brain’s plasticity by training our brain to make positive patterns more automatic. When we practice looking for and being more aware of positive aspects of life, we fight off the brain’s natural tendency to scan for and spot the negatives. Naturally we bring ourselves into better balance."
Why is Neuro plasticity so important? It is that you too can rewire your brains too as I have done. And you might think your brain is hard wired and cannot change as a top down thinker, which by the way is a more critical mind set and when criticism becomes your way of life, happiness flees away. So that is why a happy child who becomes an adult, moves out from his or her happy mind.
What my long walks have done is remap my way of thinking back to how Paleo's thought and how children think which is bottoms up.
To know how it works, simply watch how a child play. When they move they move pleasurably as they walk and as they run. That is what I have learned from my own walks, that it is in motion and pleasure therapy, rather than cognative therapy, that I experience pleasure because of the endorphones I experience both during and after my long walks. P
leasure is experience on my walks because as I go on those walks, I am rewiring through Neural plasticity my neural networks from Top down which is the critical mind to the a more pleasurable creative divergent Bottoms up mind, one that is more accepting and more tolerant, more willing to change and a more pleasurable part of my brain.
"We are basically trying to find an undiscovered path that if walked once, makes us happy. The path being the synaptic connections in our brain. And then, because we enjoy it, we go along that path, hundreds and hundreds of times. Slowly a track forms and becomes very clear and easier to walk every time."
That is how I have learned through Neural plasticity of rewiring my brain from Top down to one that is more Bottoms up and more Paleo, is how I have experienced even today, more Heaven on Earth.
Woman Secret ~ Paleo-Secrets what you can Learn from Steve Jobs and his and my 5 Steps towards us Helping you "Get a Life"
“Good things take time…but great things happen all at once.”
That quote comes from the movie "Rat Race".
It being a ridiculous comedy where a bunch of normal people are seen competing to find a bag full of money.
So how did I come to recognize the value of this Jobs quotation?
Here am I several years ago with Stage 4 Non Hodgkin Lymphoma Cancer which is a deadly blood disease found in the bone marrow. In fact, my doctor told me if I hadn’t come to him when I did I would not be here today. If it wasn’t for my chemo treatments and family prayers, I wouldn’t be alive today. If anyone is interesting, I have a picture of me when I was sick in a past blog post.
But now that I have a second chance of life, I am sharing with these 5 steps of you gaining a second chance at life too by following all 5 of these Steps that I daily use.
I also have added this more recent picture on the right, just so you can see what I look like today, now that I am in remission and back on my feet.
So what is the Paleo Secret? The Paleo-Secret is a 5 Step planning system that you can use to become more in the moment more alive and become a better leader and problem solver. It is more about leadership than a new management process.
We believe that due to our entering a more digital age, we need to think more like a Paleo Hunter/Gather than any other time in history and here is what and how we can do it including our reasons why. Even Einstein suggests the same about our Paleo era:
“Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better”.
It may seem unnatural to apply this system at first, but the more you can make living more Paleo like, and into a daily practice the better your life will unfold and the freer person you will can become.
These are not just my ideas but were ideas that Steve Jobs used too in his running of the most creative company of the century. This could be the reason, as to why, we believe Harvard states Jobs was the best CEO of our time. But several of these steps are what Jobs while he lived, implemented too.
Ashton Kutcher in playing Jobs in a movie as said to have spent 3 months learning to walk like Steve Jobs.
“For three months, Kutcher prepared for the role both mentally and physically, which meant learning to move and act like Jobs. Specifically, he spent a lot of time studying Jobs’ unique manner of lifting his feet while walking, which he attributes to the sometimes eccentric CEO’s practice of walking barefoot while doing his best to avoid constantly stubbing his toes.”
For your information the practice of walking barefoot is a trait reserved to someone who frequently goes on long walks alone in nature. To which Kutcher said about Jobs, “The experience was clearly an intense one for Kutcher, who said, “I loved a man I never knew.”’
I believe Kutcher fell in love with Jobs it was because as he played him, he recognized that as Jobs; he too was experiencing his very own authentic life. One of which Jobs lived every day of his life.
Another creative genius who used a similar system was Einstein.
After Einstein died, they removed his brain and guess what they found, Einstein had an average size brain just like us all. It wasn’t the brain size of Einstein as well as Jobs mind size too that was important, but I believe it was the thought system that each used to think more creatively. And this system is not only their secret, but how they thought is available to all human beings too.
For Einstein said, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination”.
All of these 5 steps are what Steve Jobs used to do while he was alive. Did you know that Jobs was a walker and used many of these 5 steps to take Apple into the forefront of his competitors? So in looking at this graph, where do you suppose that you fit in?
I added a graph in one of the links below which might shock most of you outlining that in the US even though incomes have gone up only 30% of the people in the US remain truly happy. It also shows that this same percentage has not changed over the years.
The issue at stake here is not only about us gaining a better technology including that of increasing incomes, but I believe it becomes more of an issue of where human beings like you and I know how to find and experience enduring happiness.
So I have created these 5 Steps hoping that more of you can use them to find and experience the happiness of being human that we all truly deserve. These are steps I use daily and they work for me.
Also, I have researched the famous Apple Steve Jobs who along with what I read about his life, many of these habits after he had become ill, he was said to have practiced them too.
The reason I am referring to it in Paleo terms is because I believe they were the first people to join the Human Club, which is a club where the happiness we seek suggests that less is more. And as we enter the Hi Tech digital era, it is a need that as we advance technologically we must remember.
Because both Jobs and I feel that getting back to the basics of living and incorporating a more simplified way of life, is something I believe that human kind needs to do, for human life to continue as a productive and happy group.
So let’s begin with my research on what being happily HUMAN is all about:
Step 1 It is about us becoming more physically ALIVE: We need to walk more and do 10,000 Steps a day ~ Humans were made to Walk ~ American’s walk only 5,000 steps a day to 10,000 steps of an average European. It’s by becoming More Physically Active and Alive ~ and Walking more often. In fact, sitting in our digital age is becoming our next epidemic and one you should work hard to avoid. Try to walk at least 30 minutes or more and as often as you can even in your job, for better thinking and better health. And once you begin walking begin working on Step 2.
Step 2 It is about us becoming a student or yourself. I learned this while Walking, as I Journalize to keep my Story Current ~ you too need to begin to journalize your own personal life story by writing down your ideas to keep a Creative and gain a FREER Mindset. Buy a small booklet and write your ideas down as they flow. If you don’t write things down you keep thinking about things which clouds more mind and inner vision. Why writing because you want this process to be less digital. One problem we have today is we like a juggler have so many balls in the air and so many decisions to make and the Paleo’s had less to think about than us. This made them more aware of life and what was going on around them than many of us do today. Even though this process may feel awkward at first, Step 3 tells you what you will experience.
Step 3 It is about us gaining a more happiness throughout our day. “Carpe Diem” or “Seizing your Day” or each morning and throughout the rest of your day ~ Once you begin journalizing then you will enter a more Creative and Flowing Lifestyle. It is because you need to keep a clear mind like the Paleo who was prepared for Danger at any moment of whether it was the Lion or Tiger is coming at him out of the forest, or even today, being prepared for any unexpected event or surprises that may enter your life. It is also a method we can use which Abraham Maslow would suggest will make you more Self-Actualized and a happier person. Next Step 4 explains how the system works to your benefit.
Step 4 It is about us being willing to enjoy and experience a life of rich conversations among family and friends. Because we as humans are a social animal, good conversation begins with you having a good story to tell and listening intently to the stories of others. In fact, listening is more important ideal at first; and then sharing your story last. I find it is better to listen to the others story, and after they have spoken, then offer them what you know. In fact, cafés were a continuation of the campfire practice in order to create good conversation over a cup of coffee.
Step 5 It is about us experiencing a better life through personal reflection. Reflection and Recall both went well and what went wrong is where you can go back over your life and highlight in yellow all of your best ideas ~ Today we live in a fact rich digital age were information is so abundant so you will need to rely on a more creative system such as journalizing and applying it also into a Gathering Process. This system allows for two processes which can be used towards eliminating excess and worthless information but at the same time storing valuable material. You want to do this so as to help you solve pressing present and important future problems whenever they may occur.
Try all 5 Steps from this day on and I promise your life will become further productive, happier and more fulfilling. Start this 5 Step system today; for it could change your life forever.
The Woman's Secret ~ Enter into my Paleo Cafe' where Life's Practice either enters into a Positive of a Negative Experience Daily ! Realize that diet is simply a Beginning. Instead, start to design your own lifestyle of Personal Authenticity each day.
eWhat I have discovered might be of interest to ALL Palio lovers.
It is simply that French Cuisine is probably one of the closest mix to what exists within a rich Palio diet.
For example, historically Palio's being Hunters and Gathers would eat what they could kill or what they could find in the ground or whatever was around them.
A Women's job was gathering tubers, berries, vegetables and nuts for her famly. I even believe that meat was not as predominant as most of us think. One problem they had was once the men killed an animal, they didn't have refrigeration to keep it for long, so meat wasn't as availble as these other above food items.
But I do believe that French cuisine because of its mix of meat and tubers might play a closer role of what a Palio diet might consist. All that is necessary is for the chef to eliminate both bread and dairy. But maybe not exclude butter, butter and butter.
"Yes, I did. You might be surprised to discover that there are quite a lot of traditional French recipes that qualify as paleo. You just have to know what to look for and do a little adjustment here and there. Then I became creative. That’s what chefs do on a daily basis. It’s actually pretty easy to eat healthy and delicious. You pick the best and freshest quality ingredients, show them love and respect in your cooking methods and Voilà! Paleo French Cuisine." (See the Article Below on French Palio cuisine.)
That is why I am refering this article to Palio Cafe'. To me the Paleo diet is very simple and has more to do with what not to eat than what. However, once human beings became FARMERS, MERCHANTS and TECHNOCRATS, is when our food and health became compromised so therefore, bread, dairy and even processed foods, must be excluded.
So getting back to the Paleo diet and the French, I have a belief that every culture has some sort or "raison d' etre" or reason to be and that in particular is what makes French cuisine, so remarkable and so pricey.
It is not what our how you eat as much as Why which both the Paleo and French cultures have seem to capture which is why so many French restaurants today are including a Palio menu and if they don't our expert below suggests that Paleo in French cuisine is often created by the best French chef's who desire quality in their offerings, create Palio dishes unconsciously .
One of the reasons why the French are supposedly referred to as great lovers is because love proceeds from a good cup of coffee, and from a long inimate meal, and now you know the rest of their story. But getting down to its essence it has to start with great conversation and authenticity to go anywheres. Even marriages begin and celebrate around food which is why food is so important to every culure.
Not that I want to entertain why I love the French other than being brought up somewhat learning the language, but learning from its culture too is what I believe the reason the Gauls even during Julius Caesars time made for great Palio chefs and tribesmen.
So getting back to Paleoism, I believe that food was a way of life. Some days the Paleos would starve and when they happened upon a kill, it became a moment of celebration and eating and drinking and telling stories around the camp fire. It was this element of what I refer to as authenticity, that the Paleo lifestyle had offered, something that many of us humans have lost today.
Most on the Palio diet of today have recieved the message but lost its essence and that is because most are stuck on the two lower levels of Maslow needs. While many of the Paleo's of the past due to their lifestyle, experienced a life on Maslow;s highest rung, which he referred to as Self Actualization.
We can't understand what the Paleo's had until we understand Positive Psychology. Its author being Abraham Maslow. In his research in his "Hierarchy of Needs" he happened onto 5 levels of living.
It started off at the bottom up called:
1. Phychological incuding food, water, clothing and shelter, (notice food is way down at the bottom); then:
2. Safety and Securityheath, employment, family and social stability (once again health reasons for one eating this way is on its second rung; next:
3. Love and Belonging of feeling warmth fro friends, family and human intimacy the result of great conversation while enjoying your Paleo or French dinner,
4, Self Esteem where one gains a sense of confidence and respect where social position and maybe wealth might enter.
And finally, one quality that very few people possess is what Maslow suggests within her life time is:
5. Self Actualization which is more of an internal experience of life purpose, self acceptance and experiencing what I would refer to as one becoming comfortable within her own skin.
And far fewer too who experience TRANSCENDANCE, which for human beings is also available to the few.
To Maslow he looked on his "Heirarchy of Needs" chart much differently than most of us today would examine a human beings success.
When I studied it in college it was more about moving up the ladder from lower to higher and the job of a psychologist was simply theough therapy to guide a person up the ladder to a rung from which they would experience their highest level happiness within the first 4 areas. Well that is what I gained from its instruction to me by therapists who were deep in their practice, but not deep enough in Maslow.
What is the problem with the modern human being over the Paleo man is like the juggler on the stage of life and within our complex lifestyles, we human's today, simply have too many balls up in the air.
It wasn't until much later on that I examined what human success meant to Maslow, that I learned my instructors were all DEAD wrong in their analysis and in their training of Maslow philosophy.
Maslow was a PURIST and was experiencing Self Actualization when he created his theories., What Maslow recognized was that after he experiened what is commonly termed as a PEAK EXPERIENCE or Self Actualization that was when he created his model.
To Maslow, once a person was living as he was a Self Actualized life was when he was living from a more authentic POSITIVE perspective.
But once a a person was not living in a Self Actualized state of authentically, on any of down the 5 lower positions, that person had entered into a NEGATIVE region of lifestyle living.
So what does this have to do with Paleo Cafe' and all the Paleo Diet ideas of today, to Maslow, most of these ideas would have some value but more from a lower perspecitve and would be missing some of the more higher values which Maslow might admit, that Palio women might in fact have enjoyed.
What Paleos might have enjoyed which we no longer experience today is a more AUTHENTIC, VULNERABILE and PERSONAL MEANING lifestyle.
I believe that the complexity of todays lifestyle in many ways has reduced much of our need for authenticity. Therefore the psychology profession of today must remain and help people live some semblance of a happy life, up from the first 4 Maslow levels, with few experiencing his 5th.
So why do I believe that Paleo's experienced closer to a Self Actualizationlevel than people do today? It was because Palio's had so much more PERSONAL and INTIMACY time to explore their own inner selves, is why to Paleo's to Maslow, many Palio tribesmen would have gained many of these rich enduring qualities, and qualities that many of us in our modern era no longer possess.
So unless we make a conscious effort to take time to go for walks in naturer preferably and spend quality time alone, and do what I have done, and that is to create a somewhat Paleo lifestyle experience of more than 30 minutes or more a day, then a person of today dealing with so many complex life issues will always live with her lower 4 regions.
Here are a few Self Actualized Traits You might like to live from and enjoy yourself. The first is they are comfortable within their own skin and the second they enjoy taking rich private time outs being alone. One you go through this link you will discover other traits that these people enjoy.
“Self-actualized people tend to accept themselves and others as they are. They tend to lack inhibition and are able to enjoy themselves and their lives free of guilt.
Not only do self-actualized people fully accept themselves; they also embrace other people for who they are. Other individuals are treated the same regardless of background, current status, or other socio-economic and cultural factors.
Self-actualized individuals value their privacy and enjoy solitude. While they also love the company of others, taking time to themselves is essential for personal discovery and cultivating individual potential.”
Take 20 minutes to watch this TED video to feel what a Self Actualized Life might look like by: Dr. David Allen
French Paleo Diet and why it is easy for French Chefs to Create Paleo dishes (Surprisingly so)
Woman's Secret ~ "Paleo Pleasures" or What Hunter Gathers or even Herders Knew that our Sophisticated Society of Today, has Lost? But don't Panic, because it can be Relearned by YOU.
We hear so much information on the Paleo diet of today but most of us don't realize that the Paleo diet is merely a TIP of the ICE BERG on the secrets that this society enjoyed.
It is only recently as archeologists have made more intense studies have we begun to see what they knew that we no longer do today. and what we as human beings have LOST.
So going on my walks I have come up with what I call "Motion Theorapy". Today most psychology is of the Cognitative variety which is that if we can straighten out how a patient thinks in her head, and how we can make her think differently. then the happier she will become. It is a mind game of sorts of trying to attend to any self created booby traps of past, or present ways if thinking that the theorapist needs to address. My believe that there is a simpler way to all of this which I call "Paleo Pleasure".
I believe and the book reference, I added below suggest that Paleo's were the happiest society of mankind, but once we moved from Paleo to Agricuture; then to Merchantilists, and now into Information Overload, progressively the more complexity our lifestyles have become, the less happier we have become.
Returning to a "Paleo Pleasures", even it is for 30 minutes or more a day, I believe might offer ground you some more, and in fact, offer you a HAPPIER LIFE. All I can tell you is that it has done this for me.
So why Motion Theorapy different. Motion Theorapy deals with movement and physical and even emotional approaches you have added into your life due to being brought up to live a certain way. We all have learned our motions and how we breath and how we spend our time from our parents and our parents learned it from their parents etc.
The question I ask is what have you learned from them in ways that you are even unconsciously aware, such as walking and breathing and time you spend alone, is what you did learn disfunctional. Or is there a better way to apply any or all of these functions; my answer to you is a resounding YES, and it may surprise you that it is the Paleo's who knew more of all those 3 life fuctions than we apply today.
My suggestion is that because the Paleos were a lot happier lot, that it is not just diet, that we need to lexamine from them, but more importantly lifestyle. Even Bruce Charlton in dealing with psychologicla issues suggests the same.
I wish to talk about 3 areas in which I believe that if a person changed in her life, she would experience a huge change in daily happiness of what I have experienced myself. Are you ready to go.
1. We walk unpleasantly ~ Yes the way we walk today is not a more pleasurable approach. Paleo's because they walked on uneven surfaces as I walk each day in the desert, I walk more pigeoned toed today. Well that is how because of the ups and downs and movements here to avoid rocks is how Paleos walked, Today we have more flat surfaces and because we use our cars, we walk a lot less. In my personal study of motion theorapy, if you will learn to walk more side to side, like a cat's booty moves or walks, you will discover it is a more pleasurable way to move.
Besides when walking this way you will experience greater pleasure though an increase in endorphons. Not only this but even if you were a plain Jane and walked this way, I promise you would turn many men's heads. Why? It is because most women because Paleo life is too far back and also because you were never taught to walk this way life is no longer pleasurable for you, but once you learn to walk properly, I promise, you will blow the competition away. Let's phase it men are still Paleo even if you woman are not.
2. We breath from our upper lungs and not down from our diaphram. ~ So why is breathing properly way down instead of up high. It is because in breathing this way it is like billows and you are gaining more OXYGEN. And when you receive more oxygen your cells are so much happier and it reduces a lot of diseases too because cancer can't grow as well in a strong oxygen environment. But more importantly your endorphons too will increase even more with your cells becoming more oxygenated.
3. We need to add more Pleasure Time Outs Alone. ~ Did you know that Hunter Gathers had a lot of time to be alone and because they did, they created a richer and more affectionate lfestyle than the one we have adapted to today. Members even grooming each other was something they did which we know longer do today. Well you might say, daily spending time to do nothing like a Hunter Gather had done is simply a waste of time.
Sorry but I disagree, instead, think of when you are doing nothing that it is time for you to clear your head. In fact, whenever I take my daily time outs, I return with greater enthusism and with new ideas to share. In fact, Steve Jobs of Apple, used to take several hourly walks alone in Palo Alto to clear his head, and when he came back to Apple, they said he always came back with something new to suggest. Look at Apple under Tim Cook today, and now that Jobs is no longer there, I believe Apple is no longer the innovator that it once was.
I just dropped 3 ideas I have learned from taking my hour or more walks alone in the desert and in nature and what I learned along the way. I have learned from walking on uneven ground, and when I swing my arms it caused me to breath much deeper, and I continue whether on my walks or even throughout the day, take time outs here and there to gain a new perspective.
That is what I have learned more than from my own personal Paleo diet, that has caused a huge increase in personal happiness. Somehow this is something that we lost, but if we take the time, it is also something we can relearn, I
believe once you will relearn all of these 3 idea and if you include its diet too, your whole universe and happines will dramatically change.
Why Hunter Gather Society was much Happier than We are Today
"Bruce Charlton has made his a final proof of his 1999 book Psychiatry and the Human Condition available online in its entirety. The book book is described as, “an optimistic vision of a superior alternative approach to psychiatric illness and its treatment, drawing upon modern neuroscience and evolutionary theory.
In summary, the ancestral hunter gatherers experienced a way of life that was – in world historical terms – leisured and egalitarian, and enjoyed health and life expectancy at a high level. Of the three kinds of society as described by Gellner: hunter-gatherer, agrarian, and mercantile, it is probable that hunter-gatherers had the best life, overall.
Hunter gatherer societies are the happiest and peasant societies are the most miserable – while industrial-mercantile societies such as our own lie somewhere in between."
Don’t Believe Me Read this Literature on Walking Correctly
Your pace of walking may predict heart disease, mortality risk
A UK study reveals that middle-aged people who are slow walkers are twice as likely to have a heart-related death compared to brisk walkers.
The finding was seen in both men and women and was not related to other risk factors such as smoking, body mass index, diet or how much television the participants watched, suggesting that walking pace is an independent predictor of heart-related death.
The team also found that self-reported walking pace was strongly linked to how fit an individual perceived themselves to be, further suggesting walking pace is a good measure of overall physical fitness.
Swiveling (really rotating) your hips helps increase speed by reducing your side to side motion so that you have the most propulsion forward. The bent arm swing also helps by allowing the arm to swing more quickly, in sync with your feet. Pushing off with the front of your back foot speeds things up, too.
Something had to die, for us to enter the new.
I believe that as the American Dream continues to die for the majority of the Middle Classes; that a new movement is taking over one that I believe is more internally rich; and less externally biased.
Yes, I believe that today we are setting the stage for a lifestyle era change of which I call one of maturing Self-Care.
So what is the American Dream and why is it vanishing?
“It’s called the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it.” It seems like an increasing number of Americans are beginning to open up their eyes and realize that George Carlin’s famous one-liner might be more accurate than many of us are willing to acknowledge.
As the United States drifts farther and farther away from the idyllic scene of prosperity and opportunity that can be found in Horatio Alger’s rags-to-riches stories and closer to the stark reality of inequality that came to define the gilded and the years leading up to the Great Depression, it seems plausible that for the first time in our nation’s history the American Dream may be just that — a dream.
These gaping disparities in wealth and income inequality didn’t arise overnight. Instead, the distribution of wealth and income has become increasingly unequal over time. The Center on Budget and Policy Priorities found that between 1979 and 2008, the top 1 percent of households saw their after-tax income increase by a whopping 281 percent whereas the middle fifth of households saw theirs increase by only 25 percent.
America: a country founded on liberty, the pursuit of happiness, and the ideals of life. The notion of the American middle class is centered on four pillars: a chance to retire at age 65, a chance to send their children to college, work in order to afford a comfortable lifestyle, and access to good medical care. However, the current financial and economic crisis, and the constant increase in unemployment are causing millions of middle class families to lose their homes or become jobless.
As a result, this crisis is steadily chipping away at the four pillars that built the American middle class, which eventually will cause it to sway and sooner or later come to an end.
Can you imagine America without its middle class?
The American middle class is slowly being wiped out. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, in 2010 there were 46.2 million Americans living below the poverty line – an increase from 43.6 million in 2009 (a poverty rate of 15.1% in 2010, an increase from 14.3% in 2009). Moreover, the Census reported that the current 2010 poverty rate of 15.1% is the highest rate in 52 years.
So as the American Dream vanishes I believe that among some more mature Americans, Self-Care may replace it?
Today we see both on the left and the right political sides both anger and active dissent. But in the middle, we also see another more adjusted and tranquil group in search of inner peace. So as the American Dream vanishes we also become less and less dependent on government to meet our needs, and we must find another dream to keep us happy. Which is why I believe that some of us in America; are being forced into a new era of choice, of which I call our Self-Care age?
It’s not that “self-care”—as the concept of consciously tending to one’s own well-being has become known—was invented during the election season. But in 2016, self-care officially crossed over into the mainstream. It was the new chicken soup for the progressive soul. The week after the election, Americans Googled the term almost twice as often as they ever had in years past. Many of them simply wondered, “What is this thing?” Months later, others still wondered where it came from.
It took 9/11 for self-care to begin to reclaim its roots as an act of political resistance, according to Petrzela. The collective trauma of that experience led to a notable increase of studies on the effects of PTSD, and it made psychiatrists expand their criteria for who might be considered to be a PTSD victim, to include even some who had a more indirect experience of witnessing the towers fall or may not have noticed symptoms until years later. Petrzela notes that in the fallout from the attacks there was a “turning inward in a lot of ways”:
A 1983 report from the World Health Organization first defined “self-care” simply as “the activities individuals, families, and communities undertake with the intention of enhancing health, preventing disease, limiting illness, and restoring health.”
Since then, the concept has been expanded by psychologists, activists, and new age practitioners, all of whom have emphasized reclaiming time to focus on oneself amidst our bustling work and social obligations. In a 2008 article in Psychology Today, Dr. Dana Gionta wrote: “Balancing work, family, and personal life has always been challenging.
It is even more challenging today. Our technological advancements are overwhelming us with information overload.” Motivational online communities have similarly bemoaned the frantic pace of modern life and have advocated reconnecting with one’s body.
As a recent post on the popular lifestyle blog Tiny Buddha exhorted, “The more you practice taking really good care of your body, the more it will reward you with good health, tons of clarity, energy, and the ability to experience all the good that life has to offer for years to come!”
I want to leave on that note, which I have continually pressed is this blog and that is that as we become more involved in our own bodies is how we will find greater solace.
Somehow, external dreams like the American Dream even if it does vanish, but we all have a body and which is our real place to live. So what if the American Dream vanishes and with its disappearance, as we enter more into our body worlds, I believe those who even if forced to change direction, and I also believe we will become a more fulfilled and happier people.
The Woman's Secret ~ Looking at how you move tells people volumes about what you think of yourself and before you say a word. Change your gate and your world will change too.
“Everything Marilyn does is different from any other woman, strange and exciting, from the way she talks to the way she uses that magnificent torso.” Clark Gable on Marilyn Monroe
The thing I am interested here is the way Marilyn learned to move her butt, whenever she walked.
Somehow, over time we stopped walking and lost the pleasure of walking too. Hopefully, DIVA's like Marilyn, can point us into the right direction even within our Hi Tech way of living.
I added this picture above which was the last Walking Club held in the US which was in the year 1910.
So why don't we walk as much today. It was after the invention of the Model T Ford, and from that period on, is when walking as a pastime and walking clubs disappeared. And this was the day the our crisis with pleasure walking began.
Before we go on, I want to ask you one question and this question may surprise you.
If you don't experience pleasure in walking then you must be doing it wrong?
My belief is that for many Americans, the lack of enjoyment in walking I believe could be a large part of our obesity problem and it is not only what and how much we eat, but we try to walk less and not as far.
In the Article "The Crisis in America Walking" it suggests why Americans are in a crisis walking mode which could be accelarating our problems with Obesity.
So let's address those statistics as to why American's walk so little which statistics get worse and worse each year.
"The United States walks the least of any industrialized nation. Studies employing pedometers have found that where the average Australian takes 9,695 steps per day (just a few shy of the supposedly ideal “10,000 steps” plateau, itself the product, ironically, of a Japanese pedometer company’s campaign in the 1960s), the average Japanese 7,168, and the average Swiss 9,650, the average American manages only 5,117 steps."
Notice how American's walk half as many steps or as far our European counterparts each day. This gives rise to what might constitute a major reason for our Obesity crisis.
The article continues.
"Despite these upsides, in an America enraptured by the cultural prosthesis that is the automobile, walking has become a lost mode, perceived as not a legitimate way to travel but a necessary adjunct to one’s car journey, a hobby, or something that people without cars—those pitiable “vulnerable road users,” as they are called with charitable condescension—do.
To decry these facts—to examine, as I will in this series, how Americans might start walking more again— may seem like a hopelessly retrograde, romantic exercise: nostalgia for Thoreau’s woodland ambles. But the need is urgent.
The decline of walking has become a full-blown public health nightmare."
The reason I wish to talk about walking is because we in the US Americans walk 1/3 of their waking hours to 1/2 of the time for Europeans.
The question is first why was walking so important and second are we walking properly.
Let's discuss the first.
When Homo Erectus began to move from walking on all 4's to walking on 2 feet, it wasn't simply to gain greater vision, but he also discovered that walking became a pleasant activity. In fact, it was said, that man in his hunter and gather stages would walk from about 5 to 20 miles a day so there must have been some pleasure other than food, as to why walking on two legs and not on 4's was to his advantage.
If insteach you believe in Adam and not the Cave Man story. Even Abraham was a herder and being a herder would have to walk his animals every few days from pasture to pasture. So even following the Abraham story and not Homo Erectus, walking was not just a necessary but I believe was also an enjoyable activity.
Also after spending close to two years of writing this blog, I asked myself this week, if I had to boil everything down to the simplist and I believe one of the most important activities a woman and I also believe a man could learn, and that would be to enjoy walking.
I believe after moving from Hunter Gathers, to Farming, then the Industrial Revolution and today, into our Tech World, To us today, WALK is a similar 4 letter word like WORK. And I believe over time that we have lost not only the ART but also the PLEASURE of walking. So how do I believe this is true?
When Walking Properly Swivel Your Hips
"Now that your hips are loosened up (from practicing the super model walk), add a little swivel to help you go faster. You want your hips moving forward and backward—not side-to-side like you're on a dance floor. Think of your legs extending all the way up to your belly button. This is not just an imaginative exercise. Some of your walking muscles do, in fact, go up into your abdomen. As your right leg steps forward, your right hip should sway forward. Then that right hip should sway back as your right leg extends behind you. Pull your belly button in, and feel your ab muscles work as you swivel your hips.
This forward-and-back hip swivel is not a big movement. Warm up first with the super model walk, then practice the hip swivel for a minute or so. Intersperse a few minutes of focused hip swiveling into your walks, but don't spend all your time on it. Over time it will start to click and become more natural."
Walking Boosts Mood and Relieves Depression
"Walking and other exercise leads to the release of the body's natural happy drugs -- endorphins. Walkers who walk at a brisk walking pace to raise their heart rate will notice this effect more than those who walk at a slower heart rate pace. But even at a slower pace, most people notice an improvement in mood.
Many physicians recommend adding regular walking and exercise as a natural treatment to relieve a bout of depression. The cause of depression is related to brain chemistry. By getting your brain to release more of the happy chemicals -- the endorphins -- you achieve naturally what many prescription drugs and herbs try to do artificially.
Depression can be a serious and life-threatening disease, so consult your health care provider if your mood is leading to problems in your life or if you have suicidal thoughts. Use walking as a part of effective treatment for mood disorders, which may also include talk therapy and drugs.
Studies publishes in 2015 found that walking in a natural environment reduced rumination and anxiety."
Now I would like to address the second question as to why walking today might not be an enjoyable activity other than the automobile, reducing its need. But I also believe that today we lost how to walk properly.
I have been walking in the desert not for close to 15 years and I have noticed something that most people never have investigated. We all are so unconscious as to how we walk that we have never asked ourselves, in walking is there a better way to walk then we culturally do? My answer is yes.
I have studied in my walking in the desert how ancients have walked. Today we walk on flat cement sidewalks and ashfalt parkways. So why we have lost how to walk is not only our main use of the car, but we walk on flat surfaces. In doing so, we have lost the pleasure of walking right.
So what do I mean by walking right? When Homo Erectus, Abraham or even walking as a Roman centurian, they all walked on an uneven surface. Have you ever seen how a cat walks from side to side? What I noticed when I began walking on an uneven road or path, that I walked very much like cat and even lik eMarilyn as my torso to moved from side to side. I began walking similar to how a DIVA walks.
So what has this all to do with pleasure. As I began to walk from side to side, my arms would move back and forth, and just like billows, I also began to breathe not only from my lungs but down to my diaphram and getting more oxygen into every breath in the process. As I got bette at it, it also became an instant approach to mediation.
So what does this have to do with making you as a woman more confident and attractive to men?
Scientists say that a certain strut can make you seem instantly sexier and more successful from 20 feet away.
"Left, right, left, right...we all know how to walk, right? But taking a stroll isn't just about getting
from A to B. Researchers from Queen's University in Canada recently had men rate different female gaits and discovered that there's one saunter that captivates them. This wasn't news to biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD, author of Why Him? Why Her?
"Women have developed ways to get and keep a man's attention as we've evolved, and this walk is one of them," she says. A man-melting stride doesn't just turn heads — Fisher says women who do it are also instantly associated with a slew of positive traits. Um, how did we not know about this before?
Walk This Way
Odds are, you've seen The Walk or done it yourself without realizing its power: It's a slightly tamer, SFW version of the Victoria's Secret model strut.
So How Should You Walk Properly
Your head is up, shoulders are back, and you lead with your boobs. Your arms swing loosely back and forth while your hips swivel from side-to-side. Your weight is more in your heels. It may take practice to make it your go-to gait, so repeat this mantra to yourself when you walk: "Shoulders, hips, heels.…"
Once you get it, the stride pays off big-time. The combo of your symmetrical body alignment and
rhythmic movements sends a subliminal message to onlookers that you're in touch with and in control of your body (sexy!). And that makes them assume you're also in control of your life.
Walking this way won't just make you look hotter. You'll also feel sexier and more confident, says Diana Kirschner, PhD, author of Love in 90 Days, since your mind will eventually buy into the message your body is sending."
What is more important to me, finally what I have found is the more I walk this way (even Home Sapien ancient men used to walk this way and not just their wives) , and when I walk this way too, I receive so the more pleasure in walking, and the more pleasure I sicovered, the more time and frequency I spend walking each day. That is why I walk for over two hours and 7 miles a day.
I hope you too will experience not only time in walking but learning how to walk properly.
Change Your Walk to change your life
In the article above Change Your Walk to Change Your Life, The Secret Ingredient of Feeling Good in Your Body is to experience pleasure in movement according to this author . Also in watching the video below this author suggests the following facts and tells women how to experience pleasure in movement. Don't forget to watch the video below.
'91% of woman don’t like being in their bodies". Pleasure feeling of happiness or some sensuality to be happy can be achieved by in experiencing pleasure in how she has learned how to properly move in her body. Enjoy!