So why learn a second, third and so on languages and if you make that choice, it may in the long run, be helping you.
Why because I do think learning 2 or more languages rounds a person out.
Here is the scientific proof:
This is an important advance,” says cognitive scientist Phillip Wolff of Emory University in Atlanta who wasn’t connected to the study. “If you’re a bilingual speaker, you’re able to entertain different perspectives and go back and forth,” he says. “That really hasn’t been shown before.”
What is illustrates is that people that are multilinguistic mentally have a creative advantage of monlinguistic people.
Also, further research suggests that knowing and using other languages can reduce dementia and Alzheimer’s diseases.
Case in point as a young man I lived in Canada and was forced to learn French. It wasn’t until I moved to Quebec and was forced to learn French to get around Montreal when I learned French. Maybe being a Canadian, taught me why learning 2 languages was important. But I decided to learn more than 2 but 3. So I also learned Spanish too.
I took an intensive Spanish mainly in conversation in my last year of college. It was great because by the time I completed my degree I was in the U.S. and was speaking Spanish with my Latino friends. Yes, friends because after taking the class and instead of doing nothing I decided to talk only Spanish with them.
That was another indication to me that it was conversation and not verb declension that makes the real difference of my becoming fluent in both French and Spanish. Needless to say, one I got into my profession I have let my language skills slide.
However, I have once again decided to get my fluency back and in particular, now that I live no longer in Canada but the U.S. and in particular, in Spanish. Later I will explain why.
Europeans put us American’s to shame because they learn more than 2 or more languages than we do in the U.S. I do think it is a disgrace that this is not the same situation in the U.S. The problem is that most American’s are monolinguists I am afraid.
Here are some European facts that might surprise you.
“Just over half of Europeans (54%) are able to hold a conversation in at least one additional language, a quarter (25%) are able to speak at least two additional languages and one in ten (10%) are conversant in at least three.
The five most widely spoken foreign languages remain English (38%), French (12%), German (11%), Spanish (7%) and Russian (5%). Almost everyone in Luxembourg (98%), Latvia (95%), the Netherlands (94%), Malta (93%), Slovenia and Lithuania (92% each), and Sweden (91%) are able to speak at least one language in addition to their mother tongue.”
I believe the language of choice for Americans should be Spanish because there are so many more Spanish speakers in the U.S. And in the case of Canadians or those closer to the Canadian border like New York City, the choice might be French.
So what is the problem in the U.S. that suggests that there are so many college students that are not fluent after years of studying a second language?
So does my going to high school and college taking language really work? Here are the facts,
Recognize that there is a big difference between learning a language and studying .it. Did you know that only 4% of the students taking a language at school become fluent in that language? To me this statistic shows why college fails in its attempt to teach any language. The fact that 96% don’t tells you there is a huge problem with studying vs. learning a language. Are the schools teaching language fluency the wrong way?
So what is fluency which might seem a lot different of which college students have missed?
“In my view, fluency does not mean perfection or even being at a native-speaker level (which linguists define as “bilingualism”). Fluency means being able to maintain a conversation, forming coherent sentences and understanding replies.”
Notice it isn’t about verb declension of even going over a lot of rigorous studies that one would do in college. It is conversation of which most students miss in studying a foreign language.
Case in point:
KIDS get it right ADULTS get it wrong. Why it is because we hate to make mistakes, but kids by making mistakes learn language skills each day. We adults give up far too early.
“As you may well have noticed, children acquire their mother tongue through interaction with their parents and the environment that surrounds them. Their need to communicate paves the way for language acquisition to take place. As experts suggest, there is an innate capacity in every human being to acquire language.”
In college we study but not learn a language but a child’s success is because they learn.
Children are into learning and not into studying. They grab onto phrases here as they begin listening to their parents speak, and somehow come up with meaning. It is in the conversation process and making mistakes and correcting them where they learn and not just studying grammar from a text. If you want to learn you need to become like a child and TALK, TALK and TALK and in time, you will become fluent too.
As you may well have noticed, children acquire their mother tongue through interaction with their parents and the environment that surrounds them. Their need to communicate paves the way for language acquisition to take place. As experts suggest, there is an innate capacity in every human being to acquire language.
But before you begin, you have to find a BIG WHY you want to learn another language.
Berry Lewis explains why.
“Benny Lewis a polyglot once he found this secret learning a language became easier. Here is how he got motivated he said this is the way he finally began to learn his first and many other languages. It was his motivation that changed thigs as he states here.
When I started out, I didn't have a clue about learning languages. I'm not "natural" or "gifted" with languages. And I don't consider myself a particularly dedicated learner.
How have I learned so many languages?
Here's what changed things.
In other words, I found that if I simply started speaking a language, from day one, and immersed myself in that language, I naturally picked it up.
By meeting interesting people, and wanting to know more about them, I found I wanted to learn.
Motivation was key - and I'll show you how to find yours. Confidence is also vital - again, I'll share how you get that. With confidence and motivation, you can learn any language. But you will hit roadblocks. That's why I developed systems to help me learn faster.”
So let’s go over a few simple steps that I have learned to learn 2 languages MYSELF.
Find someone from the other language that doesn’t speak as much English which will motivate you to:
Stop speaking English!!
The more you can converse in your ideal language you are setting up the parameters to succeed.
Step 2. There are two ways to go about learning a language: The first is conversation which many colleges don’t teach very well. In fact, I have had language teachers that even struggled conversing in the language they were teaching and in fact, used teaching grammar as a crutch.
I believe your learning has to be split into two areas of study if you want to move past the basic to an intermediate level. If you want to be advanced that will take more effort but many of your polyglots are simply into basic conversation and maybe even intermediate and remain at that level.
So in the beginning it is best to take time to learn conversational rather than simply getting a language study book to get started.
Step 3. There are plenty of courses out there you can use like Babbel and many others. The problem is that you have to pay for the course on a monthly basis. A free version is www.duolingo.com.
I try to find video on the internet rather than getting a monthly subscription. Go even to Barnes and Noble and pick up Spanish in 100 days for example that costs may $40 but you have to work at it daily.
This site is free which will help you get some of your grammar, but remember to find someone you can talk only using his or her language and not English. The problem is that many people all over the world want to speak English so they may want to be your friend to learn to speak it. However, if you find a friend that only speaks let’s say in Spanish and they want to learn English, maybe you two can take turns.
In summary, learn as a child learns in bits and pieces in groups of dialogue you try to do the same as you converse with a person who is from that other language. Grab videos on You Tube to start, and write down not just words but groups of expressions you can use in conversation with your friend.
And on the other side, find a book or course like duolingo.com that you can use to get down the basics of a simplified grammar. No longer use methods of study that no longer work and find your own way, through SELF translation.
Suerte (Spanish); Bon Change (French); or plain Good Luck with your language quest.
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation”.
After reading about the Danes and why Self-Care is such an important part of their priorities whether it is for men or woman, now you know why I created this blog.
I call this Extreme Self-Care because us living in the U.S. in an extremely competitive culture, like extreme sports, self-care needs to be extreme or it will never become a part of your life.
I created it because I believe that women are more into Self-Care than their significant others, one to bless their own lives, and two, because women feel that family is so much a part of their lives, and that self-care, is way to spread kindness to their family, friends and into their communities. Men I feel somehow get this idea of Self-Care, second hand, from their spouse.
But going further today, I decided to ask the question. Why American are such unhappy people.
As a start, I decided to fist as most economists would suggest is examining our GDP/capita. It represents GDP/population. The idea being that the higher is a country GDP and the fewer people, it creates a better income level and more material happiness.
Economist will examine this statistic because it assumes that people living in that country have more STUFF or to some more FLUFF. The more stuff an individual the happier they are or they presume.
So which people should be the happiest without examining individual incomes? What comes up may surprise you which the top ten are:
1. Qatar $141.000
2. Luxembourg $101.926
3 .Singapore $85,382
4. Brunei $78,000
5. Kuwait $74,646
6. Saudi Arabia $69,971
7. Ireland $65,144
8. Norway $ 61,197
9. Switzerland $61,086
10. U.S.A. $56,924
If you will notice, we living in the U.S. according to a World Bank assessment are number 10. However, what may surprise you that it is not the people of the United States that are said to be the happiest people in the world, but the happiest people in the World are living in Denmark.
According to the World Bank the people of Denmark are said to be number 16 on their chart with making only $46, 624 in comparison to all those other higher income countries above.
The QUESTION is what is DENMARK'S SECRET?
That is the topic we will discuss today. In fact, the heading should give you a heads up on the reason why. World Kindness STARTS with SELF-CARE and then spreads outwards.
So why are people in Denmark so much happier and defying that entire economist suggest that make people in a country happier which is MONEY.
The reason is because the Danes and the ancestors of those famous Vikings of which my genealogy is derived are the most self-caring people on the EARTH. I only discuss this because as I suggest above.
So what have the Danes done to improve Self-Care as a nation? That is by creating a Self-Care culture. In 2007 the Danish government through EurWORK, established a Prevention Fund with an objective to:
1. Prevent burnout and stress caused by poor safety and health conditions in the workplace.
2. Help people stay in work.
These objectives were met not by companies themselves with Government Funds to help companies in the implementation process.
“The self-help kits (forebyggelsespakker) were launched in January 2011 and are still on offer. The kits provide step-by-step instructions on how to improve not only employees’ health, but also health and safety conditions in industries where workers are at a high risk of burn-out. Front-line managers and the employees follow the instructions over a period of about 4–6 months.
They take part in activities including physical exercises, meetings and external counselling, and consider how to use strategies to minimize burdens. Upon completion, there is an evaluation phase. Although all the fund’s programs have the same overall objective of improving occupational health and safety, the kits are unique in the sense that the companies make the improvements themselves.
The social partners and the government select the industries that are given the kits (in Danish). Enterprises receive grants to take part and DKK 46.2 million (€6.2 million) was allocated to 756 enterprises in 2013 – although, according to the fund's annual report, the total funding available was DKK 59 million (€7.9 million) (in Danish, 532 KB PDF).”
I am not suggesting we need to force government to enact all companies but because companies were offered money to put it in place, and not a direct enforcement, is why this program was a huge success.
The Question is how such a Government program affected the lives of not only the industries but the people living in Denmark and in initiating their very own SELF-CARE personal programs.
The idea that caught on in Denmark created and individual revolution that spread because of their need to deal with Harsh Winters. So the idea of those kits began setting up a culture of Self-Care and self-care communities. But it is something because even our winter of 2016, which was so harsh, we American’s too can learn much from the Danish.
According to Helen Russell, a British journalist and author of A Year of Living Danishly, spent a year trying to crack the secret to Denmark’s success when her husband relocated there for work. The answer: the concept of hygge (pronounced hoo-guh).
“[Hygge] is the complete absence of anything annoying or emotionally overwhelming. It’s being surrounded by calm relaxing things,” says Russell from her home office in Denmark — candles burning, her dog resting on her feet to keep them warm. Russell sees hygge as a big happiness influencer, especially in the colder months.
And though creating a warm and inviting home is a big part of hygge (even Russell’s son’s daycare burns candles), it’s about more than being physically cozy. It has been a way of life for the Danes since the 18th century, with comfort at its center — namely, making time for family, friends and, most importantly, doing things you enjoy.
So what can we learn from this. What you can learn is by reading ideas from my blog on Joyfuloving on ways you can UP your very own personas SELF-CARE initiative. You don’t need a company to teach you. Simply draw deep from your soul self as what you can do to make your start realizing that:
World Kindness STARTS with SELF-CARE and Spreads Outwards!
This you might think is a very personal sharing when I express to you how you can meet Jesus as I have done.
It is meant to be heart full, because I believe this is how Jesus lived, not from head but heart.
When we think of Jesus we think of a very stoic personality.
However, the Jesus I discovered was far from that.
In fact, how I met Jesus was not only in a dream, but also once I gained from Him this powerful trait PERSONABLENESS or being therer for others.
Needless to say in what I present I am merely His apprentice.
Now for a moment I have you in suspense. But what I discovered in Him may even surprise you. And what is that trait you are probably asking?
Jesus is very approachable and will come to you like He is a long lost friend. Jesus is probably the very most personable personality you could ever meet. In fact, I created this same goal myself. And once I became more personable, I found Jesus myself.
So I would like to share with you how you can meet Jesus yourself. So here are a few simple ways you can meet Him too.
1. Jesus believes that all of us human kind are family and we are all children of a very loving Father. In fact, it was Jesus who always talked with His Father all His life.
When you begin to talk with Father daily as one person to another as Jesus, your life too will change and instead of being theoretically believing we are all family, instead it will swell up in your heart, so that you will gain this heartfelt quality that everyone is family, and with everyone you meet. I believe that Mother Teresa on the streets of Calcutta believed in this same philosophy too.
2. You melt with everyone you meet. What I mean is that you melt, is that everyone you meet to recognize them as one of your brothers or sisters. Because we are all family even those who do badly, are still a part of my family.
The only thing I think is when Jesus was on the cross and He said, ”Father forgive them for they know not what they do”. I examine His statement from another perspective as I rephrase it, “They know not who they are”. I believe it is not only the people who are bad, but many people all over the world, don’t know they are members of this huge wonderful Father’s family on earth.
3. Once you gain a relationship with the Father and also begin to from heart believe everyone you meet is your brother or sister, is when your soul kicks in. It is as if you experience your whole being as we are all one soul.
4. What you begin to do is that you begin to become kind and think about others and not just yourself. Just as Galileo discovered that the sun doesn’t circle around the earth. You begin to recognize that you and everyone else revolve around your Father’s love. He is love, so you gain love of self and other vicariously.
5. This last trait is so important is because you learn to LISTEN. Not only listen to the Father after you approach Him in private prayer. But you also learn to listen to other human beings. Learning to listen to all of your brother and sisters in need helps you become attractive. Not that you set out to become this way, but as a bee moves from flower to flower, you seem to naturally love everyone you meet.
Let’s face it, we all want someone to listen to us, so once you begin to listen and not just to talk, everyone wants to be your friend. And like Jesus who was one of the best listeners ever, you will gain this trait too.
So my desire to become a PERSONABLE human being is once I became more this way in person whether in my congregation, or in a store, or whomever I might meet, is how I met Jesus and how you can meet Him too. Here is a quote fr0m Madeline Pecora Nugent on that subject which I would like to share.
“RECENTLY a film called Son of God made its round of movie theaters. The film uniquely portrayed the life of Jesus straight through his Ascension, whereas most movies about Jesus seem to end with his death.
In this film, Jesus is personable. There’s a scene where Jesus sees Peter at the seashore, preparing to go fishing. Jesus asks if he needs any help. Peter declines. He can do it on his own. As he pushes away from the shore, Jesus watches. Then, as if prompted interiorly, he strides into the water and climbs into Peter’s boat. Peter, incredulous at this boldness, asks, “What are you doing?” to which Jesus replies, “Going fishing.” Peter shrugs and they set out. The pickings are slim and Peter is discouraged. Jesus then tells him to cast the net again in a certain spot, and now he can hardly pull it in for the huge number of fish. Peter looks at Jesus, wondering, “How did you do that?” Jesus ignores the question, saying, instead, “Come with me. We have work to do.” “What are we going to do?” Peter asks. Jesus replies, “Change the world.”…..
The Son of God movie portrayed this aspect of Christ well. While he looked as human and unextraordinary as anyone else, while his clothes were dusty from walking and his hair dishevelled from the wind, he, nevertheless, had an authority about his gentleness. He said clearly what Christ says in the Gospels. “Others tell you to do this, but I say to do this.” He pointed to himself as the authority, even though there was nothing in him physically to make us pay attention to him. What caught our attention was his poise, unassuming confidence, and love.”
So whenever I see you, I hope I am personable enough that you will find the Jesus you are searching for in me.
Sometimes being human I and you are not Okay. In the famous book “I’m OK, You’re OK” by Thomas Harris MD.
He suggests that people are in any of these three states of being.
In fact, much of his philosophy comes from another famous psychologist by the name of Eric Berne.
So why am I asking “I’m Okay, so How about You” is because what Harris found in his studies that the majority of people live in the state he refers to as “I’m not Ok, but You’re Ok.
And to me this is a sad reality, not only for me, but more importantly for you.
In “I’m Ok, You’re Ok”, there are three states of being according to Thomas Harris:
1. The first according to Harris where most people fit in: I’m not Ok, You’re Ok. Harris suggests that the majority live their lives in this state of being. I suggest we do because we THINK too much. Tolle as you read below suggests that people in this state experience, ”Pain Body”, which I will explain later on.
2. The second state is where criminals and people very unhappy are in: I’m Ok, You’re not Ok. I don’t wish to go here unless you are in criminal justice or a cop.
3. And third state is the state of living that Harris believes we all should aspire: I’m Ok, You’re OK. This is the place we all aspire to be as Harris suggests. My main discourse here is to explain how I became Okay, and maybe help some of you experience this Okay-ness feeling as well.
Before I proceed on the topic of Okay-ness, it is more a continuous advancement of an Okay process than a state of being. I need to tell you this before we continue. But please read on.
It is sad to me because I have to work harder in my kindnesses to you to help you out. But for you and me, the idea of you not realizing that Okay-ness can be a natural human state, and one that can be changed, if you only know how. But you have to begin by realizing you are not Okay, to change.
My goal here is to offer you a simple approach to rewinding you're not Okay-ness to becoming Okay or experiencing periods of Okay-ness within your everyday life.
Harris by the way discusses what Okay-ness is, but never really gets down to the nitty-gritty of the HOW to the point I believe he needed to do. So this is my treatise of what I do to experience Okay-ness, and a simple approach I do that you can do each day. .
So how do we start? You’re Not Okay-ness begins in your mind. When you were a little child, you ware always Okay. The reason you were is because back then your mind was not in charge of your life. As a child, it was your heart that made you feel Okay. But overtime, you drifted away from you heart and your Okay-ness to your head and to thought and began to experience being not Okay.
First of all, you have to recognize that this shift was not Okay to become Okay again. If you are Ok with not being Okay, then you might as well stop reading here. However, if you believe that deep down within your heart of hearts that you are really not Okay, the read on.
In fact, Eckhart Tolle in his book “A New Earth ~ Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose” says it well. The way you know you are not Okay, is because you feel “Pain Body” as Tolle calls it, in our solar plexus. Or deep down inside, you experience a sense of pain, which is felt below the conscious, that you are really not Okay, even when you attempt to pretend to yourself and others you are Okay.
This is the not Okay-ness of which I want you to feel right now. You have to experience your own not Okay-ness to decide to become Okay. Also, if being Okay was a natural response for you as a child, like Jesus said, returning to this childlike state is your salvation and is doable. The only thing is it is going to take some work, for you to get back where you once were Okay.
However, you don’t need to fight or flight or create an adrenaline charge to get there. What you need is to become gentle on yourself. First to realize that switching from Okay-ness of heart from not Okay-ness of the head was a natural occurrence.
Yes, to function as an adult within an adult world you had to make the change. But I want you to instead, think of this adult not Okay-ness of thinking as a tool. To carpenter, it is like a hammer or a saw to get work done. But a carpenter only uses them when he is on the job. You need to see thinking as this too. You only need your head to think when you need to solve a problem, otherwise, you move back to heart.
Learning how to switch back and forth from work head and off the job heart; is what you need to learn to do. And that is the beginning of your home work today and over the rest of your life.
Second, that switching back is not only possible, but something that can be done, as long as you are kind to yourself in this process. Remember, living from heart begins with living with kindness to self from heart and then your kindness spreads outwards like an expanding circle, expands outwards towards the rest of the world.
Jesus called this process one of discovering compassion. Love of self, first; and then love spreading outwards to all mankind. And even one’s enemies. In fact, if you live this way you will not have any enemies at all because you will see everyone good or bad, as family. Even in families there are both white and black sheep, but because we are family, we accept everyone in love.
So how does one move from head to heart you may ask? Just like learning as a child, learning to be a child took practice, therefore moving from living from head to heart also takes practice too. The reasons I call it practice because as a child you learned from failure to success.
It wasn’t as if you began to walk and talk like a giraffe on the plains of the Serengeti. A baby giraffe has to walk as soon as it drops out of it mother’s womb or it will get eaten. But with children, progress takes time. So your progress using the idea of from failure to success, will take time for you to move back to heart. So learn to RELAX to apply this process.
However, I do have a simple approach to get there, if you have the time and patience necessary. But before I tell you how, let’s talk about what you are trying to accomplish with my Self-Hug technique that follows.
Also, remember to keep doing this over the next 30 days and beyond.
A Simple Daily Meditative Practice
Do something nice for yourself (Like this Self Hug seen in this picture above) every day. In order to get to self-actualize you have to set up time. Create Space habit every day. This is how it will change your life. Life is lived in the spaces between two thoughts to becoming awake. Why is this true?
It is because the pain we feel comes from the CHAOS within each thought. So the only real peace we can ever experience will be within the throught process itself. Why CHAOS leaves when your remain within that SPACE is because within that space itself is exists the NOW. The broader you can make that SPACE, the more NOW you enjoy. And within that space alone, is our only hope of escape.
A Human being needs to create a habit of expanding the space between both thought, to really live life from the heart. The more you can expand that gap, the happier you will be.
Let the moment be the priority and not the past or the future. When you are doing this exercise you are creating a GAP between thoughts and the longer you can hold that gap, the more awake you become. And there is no peace, in thought itself but only within the GAP between thought itself.
Remember that it is by living in this Now state, that is life's only constant.
So what does creating and widening and expandaning that GAP between two thoughts do?
The goal of reaching your Okay-ness is simply the longer you can spread out the GAP between thoughts, then the more joyous your life as a child, will become.
The idea is simple the further out your thinking the more peace you will experience. But because this process may take some time to do. So here is what I want you to practice at the same time each day whether in the morning the evening or both.
That is why doing a SIMPLE Self-Hug (like in the picture above) or any other practice as the video below suggests is how you gain you liberate yourself and experience your very own Okay-ness.
It is like doing the same Self-Hug technique at the same time each day morning evening or both, and which will create your very own meditative life. Why do I recommend doing this Self-Hug process.
It is because I believe for the beginner, or the practiced, it is the simplest, easiest and most direct way of creating daily SPACE I have found. And by using ths Self-Hug process daily, it can become your anchor from living in a busy world, and using it as a skill and as a reference towards your getaway.
So let’s begin the living from your heart process today!
Here are several processes you are moving from one small gap to another and to another, and so on.
(Please watch this VIDEO below)
Eric Berne and Thomas Harris MD
Additional Okay-ness Links
1. Kindness came from God and Your Parent's LOVE because You are ALIVE
In the book, " Creating a Charmed Life" by Victoria Moran she states in one of her chapters, "Play your Free Square.
She explains when playing Bingo everyone starts with a FREE Square in the Middle.
I would like to suggest the odds of being born today thanks to God, and your parents love, you are on this magnificiant earth in the best of times.
I also added a link that you can read on Victoria's newest book "The Good Karma Diet" she discussed on the Elene Degeneres show.
I want you to see past all the problems with see from political, and so called social issues, how lucky you are really to be alive. Being a human being you need to jump up and down as you just hit a POWER BALL lottery. Why because as one author your chances of being a human being here and now, is:
If you go back 10 generations (250 years) the chance of you being born at all is at most 1 divided by 6 x 10100 or
1 in 60000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000 000000000000000000000000000000000000.
So instead of playing the tapes in your ungreatful tapes in your mind, run this number through your head and in its place, SMILE.
2. Kindness Begins with You as you overcome Self UNKINDNESS Abuse
I want you to think about the times you beat yourself up during the day. Another author states:
"Each person has an average of 60,000 thoughts a day! That’s one thought per second in every waking hour! Amazingly, 95 percent are the same thoughts repeated every day. On average, 80 percent of those habitual thoughts are negative."
Now you know the power of meditation as a means of counteracting those negative thoughts. I believe if you can practice meditation daily as I suggest you do with some of my techniques in the 5 Reader Favorites on the Home Page, you can eventually bring down those negativethoughts down to 20%.
Let's face it was are human and everyday we get bumped by some negative event, so you can't totally enialate those thought, but through apply a daily meditative practice you can reduce them a lot. In fact, experiencing PEACE of mind only takes you to get down somewhere's between 30 -40% of negative thoughts a day.
3. Create your own Kindness Game for Fun ~ Make spreading Kindness to other as a JOYFULOVING GAME (above) as you spread kindness to every one you meet. I would like to share a kindness game that one teach plays with her students. It is calle the Kindness game. I know that you can't apply all of those same acts of kindness if you are not in a class, but try to implement as many as you can.
In fact, I added playing "Super Hero" as a game I sometimes will play as I drive in the car or go on walks. As I see cars pass I will say, "May You Have Joy". I play this game not so much for others, but it does help because the people I do meet, I am much kinder to them.But it also allows me to feel much better to accomplish #2 , though out my own day. Why not read it after reading this post.
Woman's Secret ~ You Playing SUPER HERO while visiting or living in the BIG city like NY ~ using a LOVING meet and greet remedy
4. iKindness ~ apply kindness to everyone who you communicate by email or using the Social Medias. I am sure you have heard of the term Netiquette. Netiquette contains about 20 differnt approaches that whether working or an online student, or even a casual online users should use in how we act or post on the Internet. However, in iKindness,
We see so much flaming and cyber bulling going on online. Your goal is to reverse this trend. I would ask you to go one step further and that is when being online act and post kind things (not sacchariny) but authentic kindness to everyone you imeet. The goal here is for all of us to try to make the Internet not only a safe, but a kind place for you and I to be.
Other Kindness Articles you may want to visit:
I hate to talk on a morbid subject as death.
But I often have people ask me what it was like when I was faced with my own possible death.
Yes I was scared shitless, but the possibility of my own death was very revealing.
However, my facing death younger than most was a GIFT.
I want to share with you my experience when I thought I would DIE when I had Stage 4 Cancer. It was scary!
But sometimes scary situations allow us to reach down deeper into our own souls to receive an ANSWER. And sometimes that answer is not what we intended to receive.
The problem with this world is too much drama going on and that we too often get stuck in our desires for wealth, things, and even relationships, and many other trivialities that come along.
What I learned as I was about to die was that I need to get UNSTUCK from every worldly thing. I noticed one thing when people are to die; is how stuck they are on all of those worldly ideas and things and yes trivialities before they exit stage left.
Have you ever played the game of “Give Away”.
Everyone has in her life played checkers. The object of the game is to take away the other persons pieces before he can take away yours.
However, the game of “Give Away” is completely the opposite. The goal is simply to give away all of your pieces to win. That is what playing give away and getting unstuck means before you pass on.
I think of Buffet and Gates and all those men with wealth. I ask myself are they willing to give it all away before they die. Or are they permanently STUCK. That is a question they need to answer before they take the plunge.
But it is also something that you and I must face, and I believe it is better to face it younger, than older, because life is so fragile, we never know when GOD may pull the plug.
I watch the ads on TV for St. Jude’s medical center. The ad suggests for $19 a month you can help a child with cancer. As you offer to give some child his or her life is what they ask us adults to do. We adults in our need to reach out, think of what a child who dies will miss if they can’t experience an adult life.
However, not that I wish any of them the possibility of dying young, for the ad suggests that 1 in 5 will die. Imagine one of them facing death in comparison to one of us doing the same. Because they are not adults, they are not very much stuck as you and I. Somehow I think they have an advantage, because those who do die; were free to come and now are free to go.
However, you and I have a lot of stuff, to chuck one we go. Well, facing death, allowed for me to think seriously now that I am here, what I need to keep and what needs to go.
So getting unstuck in a very stick world, has become a TOP PRIORITY.
Let’s be frank. I like the good things of life like everyone else. However, like playing the game called “Give Away” I do like having a nice home, nice clothes, I like to look after myself physically, and enjoy all the niceties that everyone wants.
But the things that I receive, I put in TRUST for an important reason. I have put all my real estate holdings and other wealth in TRUST, not just to avoid paying taxes and give what I have to my children and charities, but it is simply to set in my mind that once I go, I am willing to give it all away.
Yes, not just physically but emotionally allow all of this stuff, to be GONE. That is the gift I received knowing that I would sometime die, and what I needed to do to prepare.
Watch the Video inside at the bottom on the Dr. Norma Bowe's Death Course taught at College
I have added a few links below on ways you might get unstuck yourself so ENJOY!