Woman's Secret ~ How Mind Body and Charisma are connected. Charisma, you have to learn on you own and is something you can’t learn attending college ~ It's a skill Marilyn Monrow lived.
Olivia Fox Cabane is an expert on Charisma. She studied the topic of Charisma and what it was while attending graduate school.
She teaches CEO's all over the US on ways that they can gain Charisma and something that you can learn too.
What you can learn in applying the 3 principles of the Olivia Fox Cabane program which are:
Presence, Power and Warmth which she teaches to CEO of major companies as their coach?
Cabane talks about how Norma Jeane Baker was just an ordinary teenager but learned a skill called Charisma while in her 20's and who remerged to become the famous charismatic Marilyn Monroe.
Cobane suggests that is Marilyn could do it so could anyone, if they only knew how to develop that skill.
Marilyn didn't know much about mind - body connection, something that thanks to Neuro Science we know a lot more about today. It is that skill that Carbane suggests that you and I can learn, if we only knew how.
So in Cobane's research on Marilyn and even Steve Job.s who she suggests was one of the most Charismatic people she had ever met she developed 3 principles that all charismatic people possess.
So let's talk about these three principles and learn why becoming mind body connected, will help you gain more than half of Cabane's 3 principles.
Even very attractive women like even Marilyn Monroe, don’t think of themselves as attractive because of their own imperfections, but through learning presence, Cobane suggests that most woman are able to experience what is commonly referred to as “Being Comfortable in one’s own Skin”.
And doing so they can easily work through any feelings of personal deficiency. Because once a person becomes fully present that is when Charisma becomes their own, and their confidence and success will emerge.
Once you become fully present you already connect with 2 of Cobane's important principles which are Presense and Warmth. The only other principle that one may or may not have is Power.
However, many powerful people have charsima due to their role in a company or in politics or in wealth, however once their role or wealth disappears, their charisma will disappear. But if instead, you decide to work on being present and comfortable within your own skin, charisma will be yours for your lifetime.
Brain ~ (The Goal ~ Creating Presence)
Every success begins in the mind. However, through Neuro Science we know that there are different regions of the brain in which people live. Most people live within what I will refer to as the top brain region. It is a very strong critical region of your mind.
In fact, as you moved from a child, you lived in the center region, and as you went to school, knowledge moved to the move out of the center and into the top part of your brain as you gained skills to help you on the job. And after you entered that region, living within that region was not a good choice.
What you wiil want to learn is how to spend more of your time through rewiring your brain, into the pineal region of the brain center which is a more relaxed and more confident way of living. Yes to get information you will need to go into the top region, but you don’t want to live there only visit.
However, it takes practice and changing how you think and you making a neuro plasticity shift and obtain presence and Charisma, which will make you happy.
Happiness is something that every person wants to achieve and we will show you how you’ll become a happier person. But happiness, all begins once you becoming fully “Present”.
Breathing ~ (The Goal Creating Presence)
Both Stanford and Harvard did studies on charisma and confidence. What they discovered was that when they showed picture of people who were happy or in a loving family, they found that people would breathe deeper. But once they changed the picture to seeing person in an accident, or in a bad mood etc. they noticed that their subject’s breathe would become shallower.
Both Stanford and Harvard began after this success on another experiment in which the 4 x 4 breathing called the BOX Breathing Method soon became a program used by the Navy Seals.
So what we want our students to use is the 4x4 BOX breathing technique. The reason it is called the BOX is because of its 4x4 structure. You can expand it longer if you want but we want you to use it by a 4x4 composition at a minimum. So how does 4x4 BOX breathing method work?
Breathe-In for 4 seconds and then hold; next breathe-Out for 4 seconds and do it for at least 2 – 3 minutes. The Seals have their men doing it for a longer period but you are not Navy Seals. However, your eventual goal is to make this 4 x 4 breathing pattern to become a part of most of your day. Yes it will take practice but once you get the hang of it and move into your center brain, its happy state of mind, will reward you so that you will want to breathe this way forever.
I hope you will enjoy the Cabane video below.
Getting to the chase towards showing you the shortest approach to gaining charisma, I also added Vanessa Edwards ideas on Charisma here from her 5 charismatic suggestions.
If there is one trait that will probably be the hardest for most persons to do which will offer you the biggest change towards obtaining charisma, and the number ONE trait that Vanessa's research found it was total body acceptance. In fact, I offered a post one week on this very subject on body imperfection acceptance and I had very few readers that week. That shows you how hard it is for most people to accept their bodies as is. Too often we want to find the easiest ways and leave the harder things that are necessary undone.
But if you are willing to get to the chase, and in a manner which I refer to as genuine "Tough Love", if you can accept your body with all its imperfections (love handles and all) and love your body as is all the same, then your charisma will explode. It may take time to happen, but your charisma, is on its way if you will brave up and do this hard thing.
Vanessa found that all charismatic people had to come to this important awareness before their true charismatic power could be expressed. In fact, Cabanes' video somewhat expresses a similar point of view if you listen to the question and anwer part of the video, close to the end.
Vanessa suggests that the premier attribute that you Charismatic people express is thatthey accept their imperfections and that includes even many of their imperfect bodies. This is something that is hard for many people in the West to do. Or which suggest that being comfortable in your own body, is as Vanessa suggests is the most important part of acquiring charisma.
This is also a trait that I have frequrently discussed throughout this blog.
Still don't believe then read this.
Loving Yourself ~ Let's Stick with the Experts on Therapy ~ Bessel Van Der Kolk Harvard Psychiatrist and MD states that Talk Therapy is a WASTE of time and only Body Therapy works today.
I have been talking about Body Therapy for over a year and a half.
Hey girls, I haven't been blowing smoke all of this time.
And I believe that some of you have thought I was nuts, but here comes a HEAVY HITTER.
This guy is a member of the whos who in psychiatry. He's helping our boys that have come back from our wars, and even common folk like you and me.
I have stuck with my discussion on BODY THERAPY from the very beginning because I believe it works while talk therapy doesn't and now Bessel is coming to my defense.
Yes maybe talk therapy works for people who live under a pitre dish and under ideal conditions, but it falls a part with Trauma and PTSD and other serious conditions. He suggests the most Americans have some sort of Trauma, that needs attention.
Bessel suggests that Trauma originates in the BODY and releasing the angst and trauma inside the body, is the only way to heal he believes will alieviate most of today's patient problems.
He suggests that our lifestyles have also promoted a lot of our trauma, something not as big an issue with those living in 3rd World Countries. No wonder people from these countries appear so much happier than we, they are a lot happier than we are even with our American Dream and all our stuff.
Let's face it, Hollywood, the medias and advertising has done a number on most of us which is why I believe and Bessel believes too that we Americans are not connected to our bodies. So Bessel suggests that the ugly stick of trauma affects most of us Westerners and not just a few.
So I have decided to add Bessel's discussion on Yoga and how it helps reduce patient trauma, but surprisingly, another method of releasing trauma is through dance. Something I have been suggesting all along through MOTION and MOVEMENT Therapy. So learn and Enjoy! Dr. Steve McQueen
Y o g a a n d P o s t - T r a u m a t i c S t r e s s D i s o r d e r
An Interview with Bessel van der Kolk, MD Dr. Bessel van der Kolk is considered one of the world’s leading authorities on Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
He has pioneered the use of Yoga as a therapy that is helping these individuals to work through their PTSD and regain a sense of mastery. He discusses mind-body connections in trauma, how Yoga works and precautions for teaching trauma-sensitive Yoga students.
Integral Yoga Magazine (IYM): How did you get interested in Yoga for the treatment of PTSD?
Bessel van der Kolk (BvdK): I began my own practice six years ago. I was looking for a way for people to regulate the core arousal system in the brain and feel safe inside their bodies. My interest came from doing research that discovered how trauma affects the brain. Yoga turned out to be a way to get people to safely feel their physical sensations and to develop a quiet practice of stillness. Lots of Yoga sites claimed that Yoga could change basic brain functions, but that was based on intuition, not scientific investigation. So I decided to see if Yoga can positively affect the core regulatory mechanism in the brain. Some trauma-sensitive people can feel frightfully unsafe experiencing the sensations that are evoked by certain asanas. What most people do not realize is that trauma is not the story of something awful that happened in the past, but the residue of imprints left behind in people’s sensory and hormonal systems. Traumatized people often are terrified of the sensations in their own bodies. Most trauma-sensitive people need some form of body oriented psychotherapy or bodywork to regain a sense of safety in their bodies.
IYM: How does extreme stress affect brain function?
BvdK: Neuroimaging studies of human beings in highly emotional states reveal that intense emotions, such as anger, fear or sadness, cause increased activity in brain regions related to fear and self-preservation and reduced activity in the brain regions related to feeling fully present. People with PTSD lose their way in the world. Their bodies continue to live in an internal environment of the trauma. We all are biologically and neurologically programmed to deal with emergencies, but time stops in people who suffer from PTSD. That makes it hard to take pleasure in the present because the body keeps replaying the past. If you practice Yoga and can develop a body that is strong and feels comfortable, this can contribute substantially to help you to come into the here and now rather than staying stuck in the past.
IYM: What is the main challenge for the trauma sensitive?
BvdK: The challenge is to learn how to tolerate feelings and sensations by increasing the capacity for interoception or sitting with yourself, noticing what’s going on inside— the basic principle of meditation. They need to learn how to modulate arousal. Trauma-sensitive people have their sense of time thrown off and think something will last forever. Their challenge is to learn how to notice what is happening and how things can and will shift, rather than running away or turning to alcohol or drugs to self-medicate.
IYM: You have said that those with chronically overwhelming emotions lose their capacity to use emotions as guides for effective action.
BvdK: The function of emotion is e-motion, to engage in action. If you are afraid, you want to move away from the object of fear. If you become angry, you feel as if you want to engage or get physical with whomever is making you angry. If you love someone, you want to make some movement toward that person. That is the purpose of emotion—to propel us toward action. When you are traumatized your motion is paralyzed. A victim of violence almost invariably has been trapped, pinned down or unable to move. Later, if there is a perceived threat, the body reacts as if it has to move but it once again feels helpless and paralyzed, prevented from being able to act effectively. All the chemicals are released to engage in action but the body doesn’t know how to move. Their challenge is that after confrontation with physical helplessness, it is essential to engage in taking effective action.
IYM: What about self-care challenges?
BvdK: The rational brain is the crowning glory of human beings. It is there to help us to engage in the world, but it is not very good in helping us take care of ourselves. In other words, the rational mind, while able to organize feelings and impulses, is not well equipped to abolish emotions, thoughts and impulses. People with PTSD, usually are out of touch with their physical sensations, and, as a consequence, they have trouble taking care of themselves. On the other end of the brain, the reptilian part is not good in quieting and taking care of the mind. However, when that system is harnessed the mind gets clearer, it’s easier to regain perspective on one’s life. It is surprising that, in contrast to Asian and African cultures, western traditions hardly pay any attention to the cultivation of techniques to quiet ourselves—we have been urged to “better living through chemistry.”
IYM: Have Western psychotherapies failed to address this?
BvdK: Western psychotherapy has hardly paid any attention to the experience and interpretation of disturbed physical sensations and action patterns. Yoga is one of the Asian traditions that clearly help reintegrate body and mind. For someone to heal from PTSD, one must learn how to control bodily reflexes. PTSD causes memory to be stored at a sensory level—in the body. Yoga offers a way to reprogram automatic physical responses. Mindfulness, learning to become a careful observer of the ebb and flow of internal experience, and noticing whatever thoughts, feelings, body sensations and impulses emerge are important components in healing PTSD.
IYM: How does Yoga do that?
BvdK: Yoga helps regulate emotional and physiological states. It allows the body to regain its natural movement and teaches the use of breath for self-regulation. What is beautiful about Yoga is that it teaches us—and this is a critical point for those who feel trapped in their memory sensations—that things come to an end. While doing certain asanas, uncomfortable sensations may be evoked. But, by keeping time as they stay in a posture for a limited amount of time, they get to observe that discomfort can be tolerated until they shift into a different posture. The process of being in a safe space and staying with whatever sensations emerge and seeing how they come to an end is a positive imprinting process. Yoga helps them befriend their bodies that have betrayed them by failing to guarantee safety. Another important aspect of Yoga is utilizing the breath. It’s very striking that there’s nothing in western culture that teaches us that we can learn to master our own physiology— solutions always come from outside, starting with relationships, and if those fail, alcohol or drugs. Yoga teaches us that there are things we can do to change our brainstem arousal system, our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems and to quiet the brain.
IYM: Is meditation okay for those with PTSD?
BvdK: The Dalai Lama and Yoga masters like Swami Satchidananda have made meditation almost mainstream. The neurobiology of meditation—that the brain can grow new cells and reshape itself—is becoming better known and finding its way into mental health services. If we meditate regularly, this can modulate the fear center and help us be more focused. However, if you are traumatized, being in silence is often terrifying. Memory of trauma is stored, so when you are stilled, demons come out. Those with PTSD should first learn to regulate their physiology with breath, postures and relaxation and work toward meditation.
IYM: Do you have any advice for Yoga teachers who work with trauma-sensitive students?
BvdK: When we practice Yoga, we open ourselves up and psychological imprints are activated. Yoga teachers need to be aware that material will come up during class and they need to be prepared at all times to help people to calm down their bodies, by working work with the breath and quieting poses. Teachers should create a safe space in the class, keep the focus on the breath and the flow of the asanas. It is best to refrain from excessive talking, explaining or preaching during the class—the job of the Yoga teacher is to help people to feel safe in every aspect of their self-experience. We have a trauma-sensitive Yoga program and a nationwide trauma Yoga teacher training course. Dave Emerson helps teachers understand how people get triggered and how to teach them to focus on self-regulation. We tell Yoga teachers to make no physical adjustments without carefully checking first with people. Some poses like Balasana (child’s pose) can be very sensitive. We don’t avoid these, but it’s important that trauma-sensitive students are taught by teachers who are skilled in facilitating self-regulation techniques and who can help people use pranayama and movement to stay relaxed and in the present moment.
Bessel A. van der Kolk MD from Harvard, has been a clinician, researcher and teacher in the area of posttraumatic stress since the 1970s. He has done pioneering work on the neuroscience of trauma, its impact on development, thinking, feeling and body sensations.
Loving Yourself ~ What is Ignatian Spirituality and both he and I believe you can't really have a Loving Self-Care Program, minus your 5 Sense Awarness. And in this life, "I Hope YOU Dance"
I want to be honest here when discussing Self-Care and Sensuality.
We hear a lot of discussion about creating Self-Care without Sensuality because it seems to bring out the idea of human sexuality which causes that our true human Sensual natures to suffer.
The problem is that Sensuality to Iranecus who was a saint by the way in his time, who suggested that human Self-Care, had to include Sensuality or awareness of one's 5 senses, or it wasn't Self-Care.
The reason why I believe most of us are not Sensual and live more fully from our 5 senses is because our vision combined with thought, tends to dominate all of our other 4 senses such as taste, touch, smell, and hearing.
For that reason, I believe that even animals are more aware of there 5 senses that we humans are. It's as if our huge brains, get in the way of our true self-care program. And we need Self-Care drastically to live as a full joyful existance as a human being. Anything short of that, to me is not true living.
Self-Care alone is like having the left hemisphere of the brain in action only. However, both the right and left hemisphers of the brain need to marry where Self-Care becomes the left side through practice and Sensuality or your Aliveness right side, need to be together, for human joy and happiness to exist. So that is why living from your 5 senses is so important.
Too often we look at Sensuality as if it is Sexuality, and we don't recognize there is a difference. In fact, Ignatian a 2nd Century Christian Leader and also mystic believed that you cannot experience God if a person, is not living within her 5 senses. It was to him that living a Sensual 5 senses life became a prayer itself. In fact, you can be sensual and be cellbate, Something that can baffle most Americans.
Somehow, with the rise of Puritanism and the Industrial Revolution against a Roman, sexuality backdrop, we have somehow, lost our senses,
We all have bodies so somehow, we have been given our bodies as Irenacus suggests with all 5 their senses to use and not leave stagnant, so we need to embrace them to become ALIVE and well.
What is Ignatian Spirituality
"The second-century saint Irenaeus said that “the glory of God is man [and woman] fully alive.” I love this idea and find that it always invites reflection. What does it mean to be fully alive? How well am I doing with that?
One thing I’ve learned is that a big part of being “fully alive” is paying attention. It’s being aware of God’s presence in the present moment, right where I already am. And I’ve found that a good way to cultivate this mindfulness is to pay attention to the five senses.
God speaks to us through what we see, hear, smell, touch, and taste. We know this intuitively, but to think about it consciously is a powerful form of prayer……
God meets us where we are, as humans living and breathing and moving in a tangible world, and the five senses are five entry points for God’s love to become known to us."
I found a neat website that I am adding here that sums up my total intension on become Sensual Beings, and it is also contained in the Country Song by Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance" which I believe that our sensuality becomes life's dance. And if we don't dance, we are not truly human.
Solitude, Sensuality and Self-Care
“There was my time to indulge the part of me that wanted to be seen and appreciated as a woman. I’d go about my beauty routines lavishly applying lotions and enjoying the softness of my skin, making eyes at myself. I’d have pretend conversations, smiling and flirting with some imaginary person, driving them crazy with my charm and mystery. Inevitably, at some point I’d turn on music and the private dancing would begin. Behind my closed bedroom door, I was a goddess, completely immersed in my own feminine energy.
While I would have been embarrassed to talk about these antics at the time, I realize now that this kind of indulgence is sacred and it’s incredibly self-soothing. Over time, I got away from myself and started relying on men for everything. To make me feel sexy, happy, interesting, appreciated, whole. There were times I literally begged men to make me feel important, to fix me when I felt broken and rescue me. I forgot how to appreciate my own attention and it took me a long time to return to myself.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the imagination of self-love and how healthy it is to be entertained by yourself. We need to explore all our layers and inspire ourselves and make stuff and dream. When we crave attention, we need to know how to feed that desire with our own details and the sustenance of our own care. So we don’t rely on others to give us what we should first give ourselves.
There is an undeniable connection between imagination and purpose. Whatever it is you find yourself visualizing and needing to express, there is a reason. However many women live inside of you, your imagination can reveal them. Don’t be inhibited with yourself.
I purposely remind myself daily that I am a sensual being, fully capable of pleasing myself. I take time to notice how I touch things and how I move. How I take care of myself and what makes me feel stimulated and alive. How I surround myself with inspiration. No matter what I’m doing, I enjoy my own company. I’m not waiting for someone to see me or fill me, I know how to do it on my own.
When we don’t give ourselves this attention, we can find ourselves doing unhealthy things to get some light from someone else. And oh my God, the things we do, the things we put ourselves through, rather than cultivating what we need to feed ourselves. Start there, in your own space, with an admitted desire for love and attention. Don’t be ashamed of it. Use your imagination to channel your magic and inhabit yourself fully.”
"I Hope You Dance" by Lee Ann Womack
I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty-handed
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
I added the video of the song for you to listen to below.
The Woman's Secret ~ How to Re-Connect to your Body through Motion Therapy ~ which once you get the hang of it, can offer you a more productive and a Happier Life ~ are you interested?
Motion Therapy is a simple concept to explain, but it is not easy to do.
My premise is you doing something as simple as a daily walk in the park, can change your life and it is that simple.
But doing it in nature daily is where it is not so easy and becomes a little sticky.
First of all you need to get on a good pair of walking shoes and go for a walk as often in nature as possible, which is something that is simple but not easy to do.
The reason it is hard is because you already think you know the right way to walk and also the right way to breath because you have been doing these same two practices now for the last X years of your life.
And here is the arm chair shrink telling you right now that everything you learned when you were a teenager was not right. And that he is about to offer you a simple way to totally change your life, and forever.
Many of us will go visit a shrink and pay him a fortune to teach you how to think right, but once you learn this simple method, I believe that your whole life will change, and if yo u are seeing a therapist, you won't have to see him much longer. However, to make it yours, you just have to have the will power to follow it through.
Others will learn how to walk to entice a man using the ideas of a ballroom dancer below, who teaches women, what I have instructed here for FREE. I added links of her program for you to review below where woman pay her to teach them how to walk properly, what I am showing you here. Keep your money in your purse, and use my simple walk in nature program, as my FREE, do it yourself program.
It is because I believe once you learn how to apply motion therapy, most of your mental issues I believe will disappear, and within a few days, weeks or months of constant practice, you will become a whole more productive and happier person. Believe me that is what I have discovered and I am here to share my process with you. Now you know why I said, this method is simply, but not easy to do, because to unlearn and relearn, takes daily practice.
Why did girls learn how to walk with a book on their heads in the old days you might say, which offers you the same effects as walking in nature, In fact, you will experience this same effect as I do applying this same book on your head practice. Here are reasons why even this simple approach works.
The old practice of Walking with a Book or Several Books on your head something we rarely do today
To achieve the best walking techniques you can also:
You mean all it takes is learning how to rewalk and rebreath and your life will change! That is why this is idea so simple, the hard part is consistantly doing it.
But what I have to tell you today, is what you need is someone acting both like a physical therapist, and teach you a better way to walk and a messsage therapist and illustrating to you a better way to breath.
But may I add, that if you will take these two change changes to heart, I promise you that as you take your relearning how to walk and breath simple changes, that I know you can learn to gain a more productive and happier life. I know this because I live this way and have so for most of my life.
I like to talk about the transition of you as a child and now you as an adult. I like to use this analogy because once you became an adult two radical changes took place, the first is that your walking became more machine like, and your breathing became more faint. These are to changes you made which today, makes you less productive and happier than you were during your childhood days.
What you need to change is simple to do, but making that change and making it a habit, is not easy. Believe me, I have talked to many people and many of them take my advice for a few days, and after a little encouragenemt from me, go right back to their old, comfortable ways.
Here are the advantages you will gain once you make these two changes:
1. SelfAcceptance as you relearn how to begin walking and breathing right.
2. Greater Confidence in your stride Many people don't walk confidently because they are moving their bodies wrong.
3. You will gain more charisma, because walking more confidently will improve your social life.
4. You will improve your life balance because walking and breathing deeper will reduce many of your rnegative thought patterns.
5. Your mood will change into a happier and more self-loving person as more serotonin, daily enters your body.
What you are learning to do:
If you have heard about Neuroplasticity, you know that Neuroscience is discovering that how you think, makes a huge difference in how happy you really are. One problem tha tmost of us face, is that we think Tops/down or that we live within the top part of our minds. This part is very competitive and very critical, which I believe creates much of our unhappiness in life.
So just by you changing both your walk and your breathing deeply, will through Neuroplasticity, retrain you into Bottom/up thinking by relearning how to think like you did as a child.
What happens is that the neurons in your brain when you begin to walk and breath this new way will begin at the center of your brain called the hypothalamus and pituitary gland which is a more loving mind, and when you need information you will go up into your minds higher region. But you don't stay in that higher mind region. I also told you that the natural drug of seratonin, is more active in that region often called the LOVE CENTER, of your brain.
When walking this way you are satisfying a more PRIMATIVE part of your brain that is why I often refer to it as PLEASANT WALKING, which is how our ancestors used to walk, and walking this way they were a lot happier people than we are today. When I walk this way serotonin kicks in and my days feel less rushed and a lot happier too. No need taking drugs, when what is available to you each day is this natural high.
But basically, learning how to walk this way will help you think more postive and it will allow you to spend more of your day within that peaceful center region o your brain. In fact, this is the same region that a ferocious mother lion, nurses and loves her baby cub, from this mind center region. That is why walking properly to me is an important mind shift, and is powerful stuff.
So now that I told you how wonderful life for you will become lets let you know what two changes you will have to make.
1. Most of us walk on even ground and we drive as close to the store entrance as we can so we don't have to walk as far. So in walking you walk placing one foot in front of the other. However, whenever you walk or hike in nature you have to change your walking style to accommodatue the rocks and uneven ground. When walking when the grouind is uneven and there are rocks in the path, you have to walk from side to side to gain better balance. What you will also notice is that when you are walking to keep your balance your hips will begin to sway a bit more when walking more side to side.
I found the more I walk in nature the more I gain this same rhythmic way at home. In fact, it looks more like a dance than a walk. Little do people know that you get more of the natural high serotonin, walking this side to side way. That is why the ancients were happier first of all they walked this way and second, they walked more than we do today. They rarely sit which we do too much of in our modern times.
2. Most of us breath from our lungs and don't breath all the way down to our diaphram. As children we breathed all the way down, but once we became adults we got lazy and started to breath shallow. Making this change alone, will create for you a more meditative life.
I added these two links below, one of a video and the other is a website of a ball room dancer teaching women how to walk right and how tp become a more confident person, I added this for you to see that some people are willing to pay money teaching women, how walk properly where you are getting my same information for FREE.