Did you know something as simple as creating a "Complaint Free Lifestyle", for 21 days, could actually improve your life forever. You have heard of the "Law of Attraction".
Well in a way, creating a "Complaint Free Life" (even materialistically) could put you on a path towards, not only experiencing a more spiritual life, but also pay big dividends through not thinking negative.
What may actually happen is whether from either God or the Universe, which ever you believe works best for you, this lifestyle can create a lifestyle, one that you have never imagined possible.
Yes, I wear this rubber bracelet (see link below) which says, "Be Complaint Free" to remind me each day, why I want to curb any negative conversations I might spread about others.
In fact, I have been living this premise now for close to 10 or more years. So how did complaining begin with most of us including myself?
Do you remember a day or two when you were sick and complained about any of your aches or pains. One thing you probably noticed was all the attention from family and friends, that came your way. It was so ingratiating that you might have decided, let's do it full time. So now and again, if the weather was bad, or you had a bad day, you told your friends, and they responded the same, "Oh poor Suzanne".
Another issue that might have arose is as you complain about not receiving something you really wanted, and then instead of asking and answering why and how you screwed up, you begin to say to others or too yourself, it was your teacher, your boss or someone else's fault for you not receiving its response.
The problem is that when you pass the buck by blaming the problem on someone else, other than your taking responsibility for you making a mistake, you postpone any positive learning experience, which can reduce the chances of it not happening again, and you moving yourself onto a higher plane.
Another example when you began your criticizing trend, it happened when you were a little girl and your brother or sister was up to something and you saw it all go down, Soon one of your parents comes sweeping down on your brother or sister, asking you what had happened. By finding fault and being a tattle tale, you were rewarded. Therefore, by seeing your other sibling receive a time out or a swat, you were rewarded for passing on the blame.
And by being a tattle tale you became smug and pleased that it wasn't you receiving any punishment. So complaining about someone else's mistakes whether at home or at school, gave you an instant reward. Some kids of this nature were sometimes referred to as "Teachers Pet".
Maybe too that same attitude can stretch into why many of us feel better off, after seeing someone worse off than ourselves. In fact, some people make a habit of put downs, using this same principle, hoping to receive an ego boost, whenever they make a sarcastic comment that is shared with a spouse of a friend.
One idea to counteract this putting down others trend through attacking or unkind speeking, came from Thumper in Bambi when he said, "If you don't have anything nice to say, well then say nothing at all". I remembered that quote and I have taken it to heart because every time I complain about someone else, somehow it makes me feel bad inside. If you want to feel up most of your day, then saying less is a far better strategy.
So if criticizing or complaining makes you feel yucky as it does to me, then maybe Thumper's reasoning is right. By you spending too much time throughout your day gossiping might in the beginning make you feel powerful, but once you spilled such negative comments, you will soon realize a few minutes later and as your day progresses, this high acts like taking a drug, which may make you feel high initially, but much later on as it does to me, makes me feel depressed.
And if you make it a habit it might create for you unconsciously, you not even knowing it, many unhappy days. And if that habit progresses and becomes a pattern, many unhappy months and years ahead. Therefore, that is why taking the 21 day ""Be Complaint Free" commitment might be the best thing you could ever do. In fact, for me it has changed my life.
In the past, I have never been a big complainer, but merely an occasional complainer, but I took the pledge, because I believed that even in small incidences of complaining, I was a loser because I was stunting my personal progress.
So I took the 21 day pledge many years ago, because I believe that even with accepting small complaints here or there, it can over time still create a negative pattern.
Most of us complain here and there. However, those of us who do so occasionally, it isn't quite as bad as those who make it a habit. The reason constant complainers are a problem is because they have become victims, of their complaining habit. As victims they tend to stunt their growth, and growth is why we are here.
You have probably met men and women who are constantly complaining. If you have ever met a happy habitual complainer, you are rare. Because the one's I have met, that are constant complainers, they tend to seldom smile, and all are very unhappy folk. They're just like the woman in the picture above.
Some in fact, complain to receive attention. When a person complains once in a while she may receive attention once in a while and most people realize that is life, and we all have our good and bad days.
However, folks who are constantly complainers we all know that have few friends, because everyone who knows them, knows that they are unhappy, and don't want to be brought down with their complaining nature. What was at one time a habit that received attention as a child, once it becomes a habit, and that person joins the constant whiners club, most people simply will ignore them.
That is why I know that most constant complainers live lonely lives. It is because most people are trying to experience happiness in life, so whenever they meet such people they will simply turn the other way to avoid them.
You have heard the expression that "Birds of a feather stick together" well most people will decide to remove such people from their friend list. And once you are eliminated by so many people's friends lists, your life has no other means but you being lonely.
I have found because I have tried to live "Complaint Free Life", people must think I am fun to be around and today I have more friends than one could ever imagine.
One of the reasons for this I believe is because I can actually keep what a person says to me in confidence without spilling it all over. Also, I have become a better listener. Become both a confidant and a great listener and guess what. your friend list will explode.
If you want to become effervescently happy, and have so many friends you could ever imagined, do like I did, and join with me, "A Complaint Free Life", because will will be glad you did. I have added a few links and how to purchase "A Complaint Free Life" band, so you can put into practice over the next 21 day, to begin to live daily this way.
How to create your very own Complaint Free Life
Purchasing a "Be Complaint Free" Band